Religious best friend.

[Markhen221]

I am bi and I have told 14 of my closet friends. Yesterday my best friend came back from camp and I have not talked to him since I came out. I want to tell him, but he's kinda a judgmental person. I was talking on the phone with him Yesterday and we were talking about gods view on this. He basically said that Christianity is the only real religion, being gay is a choice, and how if he had a gay, lesbian, or bi friend, he would accept then but would tell them they would go to hell. Should I still tell him?

[oceandude33a]

i say tell him, if you told your other friends and he finds out tht u didnt tell him right away he might be offended. and he said tht he would accept one, and if he dosent accept then you know who your true friends are. good luck!

[Perseus]

I am bi and I have told 14 of my closet friends. Yesterday my best friend came back from camp and I have not talked to him since I came out. I want to tell him, but he's kinda a judgmental person. I was talking on the phone with him Yesterday and we were talking about gods view on this. He basically said that Christianity is the only real religion, being gay is a choice, and how if he had a gay, lesbian, or bi friend, he would accept then but would tell them they would go to hell. Should I still tell him?

Tell him, and if he gets in your face or anything, tell him "let he who is without sin, cast the first stone". Ultimately, he has no right to judge within his religious beliefs because it would be hypocritical of him and go against Jesus' teachings.

[Flitz]

Tell him, if he say's you will go to hell, then walk away. That's one less "friend" to worry about.

[Fishes]

i think in this case that ignorance is bliss so dont tell but he most l;ikely will find out by someone else but im sure hell understand y u didnt tell him

[Spock]

if you dont tell him and he finds out from a different person then you wont be as close

[Contra]

I think it's worse if he finds out through other people than saying you'll go to hell, at least he'll still be your friend and accept you, so you should tell him.

[judahtics]

i say tell him. remember, no matter what, you are you and you are a great person. or so i assume, i don't know you. the fact you know what to expect is a good thing. and even though his opinion sucks, respect it. just as you have the right to believe as you choose, so does he. you can ask him, please don't push your beliefs, i respected you enough to tell you, and i would like you to accept me without condemning me. or maybe something like that. you get the idea. anyway, good luck! oh yeah, and i'm sorry you're having to go through this because of this.

[Maxxie]

i say tell him. remember, no matter what, you are you and you are a great person. or so i assume, i don't know you. the fact you know what to expect is a good thing. and even though his opinion sucks, respect it. just as you have the right to believe as you choose, so does he. you can ask him, please don't push your beliefs, i respected you enough to tell you, and i would like you to accept me without condemning me. or maybe something like that. you get the idea. anyway, good luck! oh yeah, and i'm sorry you're having to go through this because of this.

Basically this.

I've got some newfound respect for you, Judas.

But, my two cents, don't argue religion with him. There's a time and place for that, and it's not with him and not over sexuality, of all things. Even though his opinion is morally bankrupt in all regards, don't try and convince him of yourself if and when you tell him, because it's futile, that.

If he can't accept you, if religion gets in the way of your friendship, in the way of him respecting you as a person, then it's better to just not tell him. From what I've seen, though, it seems like his beliefs won't get in the way of it, but I can't be certain. It's your risk, mate. Best wishes to you.

[judahtics]

it's judah, not judas. my loser parents named me after the biblical tribe of priests, not the betrayer of jesus.

[Maxxie]

it's judah, not judas. my loser parents named me after the biblical tribe of priests, not the betrayer of jesus.

See, I knew that... I'm not the most intelligent person on the planet, read your name wrong. :( Sorry!

[judahtics]

See, I knew that... I'm not the most intelligent person on the planet, read your name wrong. :( Sorry!

no worries. i don't like my name anyway. it's a reminder of my parents and when people ask why i judah, i tell them truth, i was named after the tribes of the priests from biblical times. then, because people are people, they assume i'm a christian. i really hate when people hear my name is judah and automatically think i'm a chrisitan. and there's been talk of adding the name "christian" to my name recently. think about that christian judah or judah christian. oh my.

[LuckyLuke]

Not much of a friend if he doesn't accept you for who you are, now is he?

[Starlight Blaze]

well I would say tell him.
I've told my religious friends, and though they both don't like it, they deal with it.
Actually, one of them got really mad at me and we got in a bit of a fight, but when his mom found out (who is also super religious) she yelled at him and now they all act fine with it.
I mean not everyone's the same, but like the others say, it's technically against their religion to judge, and if he got mad or something, he isn't much of a friend anyway

[logan fields]

i dont know about a lot of stuff but to me your friend is way wrong. i think god made all of us and gay or straight i dont think he makes mistakes. i also dont think being gay is a choice because why would some 12 year old kid chose to be gay if he is straight. why would little gay kids be killing themself for being gay if they could just change. i think your friend is way wrong and i couldnt have a friend that thinks like that but thats just me.

[rockabillykid]

Tell him he does nOt know anything
If he did he would know that god is the only one that judges
God accepts everyone and loves them for who they are

[Nicky97]

Tell him that Jesus preached love, and nothing but. Jesus never said a thing about homosexuality.

I don't know why they publish the teachings of Jesus along with all that mean, hateful, violent stuff from the Old Testament. If he is Christian, he needs to study the words of Christ.

Chances are he is just following what others tell him. That's convenient, but it's not "believing". So spiritually you don't need to concern yourself with what he thinks.

[DarkHorses]

I understand that it's important for you to have your friends acceptance, but the truth is that he may not be able to completely accept or appreciate the fact that you are bisexual. It might take him longer to get used to the fact than it did for you other friends, because of his religious views. But even if he says "you are going to hell," that doesn't mean it's true, and you shouldn't let it get you down. You are who you are, and all that matters is that you approve of yourself.

[Brighter.Tomorrow]

John 15:18
If the world hate you, ye know that it hated me before it hated you.

[kuuliluuk]

I wouldn't advise to tell him. You already asked his opinion and he will act exactly as he said. So it is better to let him know about you from others. It gives him time to think over. If he values you as a friend, he could pretend he hadn't heard anything. And perhaps later he just accepts what you are. But now if you confront him, he will tell you how you will burn in hell.