My fault? Mountains out of molehills???

[Aubrie]

At the time, I was "dating" a boy. We were out in the field where you park at the football games and we were kissing. I told him that I didn't want to go farther than that - this boy had a reputation. Before I knew it, he was on top of me in the grass and had my shirt up. I was extremely uncomfortable, but I let him do it for a little while and then pulled it back down when I got the chance. Eventually, his pants were unzipped and I told him again that I didn't want to go farther than kissing. He ignored my comment and started kissing me again. He took my hand in his and started jerking off. I didn't know what to do, so I just told him again that I didn't want to go farther than kissing. I got my hand free and just put it up to his chest and told him again, hoping he'd forget it. He did it again.

I know I wasn't actually raped. I don't know if I'm just overreacting and/or if it's my fault because I pretty much let him do it. I didn't get up and leave or anything like I could have...

[smithy94]

No its not your fault, at all! you should tell someone about this, he was completely out of order and should have listening to you and not gone further than kissing

[Aubrie]

No its not your fault, at all! you should tell someone about this, he was completely out of order and should have listening to you and not gone further than kissing

I can't really. It was 3 years ago when I was 13. Nothing legally can be done, and I'm too scared to talk to a therapist in case it would have to be reported. No one would believe me anyway.

[senior.2013]

I want to tell you something very important and I don't want to sound like a father figure but I will. If anything like this ever happens again, tell someone that day. If its non-consensual and sexual, its rape. In this case, statuatory rape.

I hope nothing like this happens to you again, because its wrong. Its something that will scar anyone for life, and there must be concequences, Not in this case because its 3 years ago, but you get my point.

I put this on all my posts because I mean it with my heart: You have plenty of people on here who are more than happy to help you. If all you need is someone to listen, I'm here. My email is under my contact info and feel free to click it any time.

[Aubrie]

I want to tell you something very important and I don't want to sound like a father figure but I will. If anything like this ever happens again, tell someone that day. If its non-consensual and sexual, its rape. In this case, statuatory rape.

I hope nothing like this happens to you again, because its wrong. Its something that will scar anyone for life, and there must be concequences, Not in this case because its 3 years ago, but you get my point.

I put this on all my posts because I mean it with my heart: You have plenty of people on here who are more than happy to help you. If all you need is someone to listen, I'm here. My email is under my contact info and feel free to click it any time.

In my state it's not statutory because we were both under the age of consent, but same difference I guess. Thank you for your reply and kindness =) Something similar happened again about a year and a half later with an older guy and his friend, but that was reported and (kind of) taken care of. Needless to say, in that year and a half, I've been left with a lot of scars =\

[judahtics]

that's molest, and yes, you can do something now. there isn't a statute on molest, well in the US anyway.

[senior.2013]

Aubrie, again, I know talking is the only thing that helps sometimes, so if you ever need someone to listen, I'm here and so is the rest of the forum. Email me if you need help.

Best wishes...

[Hopegirl]

To be honest, you'll find a post of mine,quite similar to this, askin if it is my fault,what happened to me..and in your situation it definetly isnt..you never know whats going to happen before it does, when you're put into those situations ,you dont know what to do, i have experience of that to. Never blame urself for these things . xx Im open to talk if you need to..ive had the same kinda problem

[DoctorWho]

Your fault for him getting out of control. Ha none of its your fault