because of me, my friend started cutting.

[beebs]

my friend told me she self harms, i wasnt really surprised, and i told her that i do to. she only used to scratch herself with needles, and i have always cut, one day she asked what i used, i told her, then she asked how i got them, i asked why she wanted to know, she said she was just curious, and i believed her, she my bestmate. the next day she said to me, god what you used reall does hurt. and she made me feel so bad about it, i told her to stop cutting before it was to late, and she said "its your fault for telling me that" and now i feel so god damn bad about it :( what am i ment to do?

[SilentlyCrying]

It's not your fault. It's hers. She had a choice.

[xDarkAngelx]

As Bree said it is far from being your fault as it was her own choice in doing that.

[bobby1273]

Like everyone else said, its not your fault. By the sounds of it your friend would have done it anyway and she chose to do it, you didn't make her.

[StoppingTime]

Its not your fault. For one, she had a choice on whether she wanted to actually listen to you. The reason I think she said it was your fault is because she felt guilty for doing it, now she can't stop, and she needed someone to blame it on. But don't worry, you didn't make her do anything.

[NobodysCupOf Tea]

Its not your fault, you trusted her when you told her. Plus she could have looked it up on the internet.. So if she really actually wanted to cut, she would have found it out in other ways than through you... Chin up

[xktx]

there must be a reason to her to self harm... :/ try talking to her, sometimes talking can be the only remedy... :/ x

[senior.2013]

Everyone right. Its not your fault. Its not because of you, its because her relaxor or release method wasn't enough for her. She had a choice and she made the wrong one. You didn't tell her that cutting was way better, you told her what you used. She either became addicted to it or didn't like it and used you as a scapegoat because she knows you cut.

I put this on all my posts because I mean it with my heart: You have plenty of people on here who are more than happy to help you. If all you need is someone to listen, I'm here. My email is under my contact info and feel free to click it any time.

[AltoVaughn]

I honestly think she just wanted someone to blame for what she does,

[Lethe]

First of all, it's her personal choice whether or not she cuts. You made a mistake in telling her what you used, but it was her choice to use it at all. She shouldn't put the blame on you for her own choice. If anything needs to be done here, it's that you should say that it isn't your fault, and that she should take the blame for her own foolish decision, not placing the guilt on a person who doesn't deserve it. She sounds rather selfish, in my opinion.

[dontcare97]

It's not your fault. Your friend decided to take the object and cut. You didn't force her to cut with it or threaten her into cutting. She has free will and made the desicion on her own. If she wants to go blame you, she isnt a real friend.

[LivierGleek]

It's not your fault! Best friends dont accuse you saying 'it's your fault' like that! what kind of best friend is that?? believe me, she wanted to do this by herself, you didnt make her, you actualy tried to make her stop -as i understood- . It's not your fault. ;]

[Amaryllis]

Sweetie, I'm gonna say the same thing as everyone else. It wasn't your fault. As much as I'd love to blame my cutting, eating disorder, depression and everything on my parents, I can't. They didn't put a gun to my head and say "Starve, cut and die or I'll shoot you." I did it. I picked up the blade. I did it. It was my own goddamn fault.

All you can do is help her. Show her the pain it's caused you. How it ruined your life. Tell her it's not the way. I had friends like that too. Scratching with pencil caps and needles. They stopped though. But to this day, they don't know I cut. It was horrible. Sitting there listening to them talking about scratching. I felt like such a failure and most of all I was afraid. For them. I would never wish this on anyone.

Do what you can't but if she still goes down that road. Well, at least you know you tried. She woulda found a way whether you told her or not. Don't be so harsh on yourself. You're amazing for caring.

You take care as well, okay?

Love,
Faith and Trust

[Shadowin]

trust me honey its not your fault she made a decision to cut not you its not your fault

[onedayforever]

not your fault your friends.