How involved are your parents ?

[AltoVaughn]

My parents are basically only financial support to me. They have had very little active parts in my life besides working for money and making me deal with their problems, (Divorce, Mother's boyfriends, Depression). I was taught how to be very independent from a very young age and I've pretty much remained so. When my mother is depressed I even end up taking care of her. I go to people's houses and I can't even comprehend when my friends ask their parents to do things for them and they do it. Even simple things like washing a load of clothes.

How involved are your parents ?

Does my Situation seems odd to anyone?

[SilentlyCrying]

Your situation isn't odd at all, not around here anyways.
My mom does everything for me. That's just because I'm too scared to do it myself.

[AltoVaughn]

Your situation isn't odd at all, not around here anyways.
My mom does everything for me. That's just because I'm too scared to do it myself.

I don't understand, You're scared to do what ?

[prob1996]

your situation doesn't sound that odd at all..my parents are not very involved at all...shuffling me between practice and class is about the only "quality" time I have with them. They work hard to provide my brother and I with a good life but they're just not around.

[Modus Operandi]

My dad is, by my own choice, completely uninvolved in my life. As I'm still in high school, I rely on my mother for food, clothing, etc. However, in terms of my life in an overall sense, she's not a part of many aspects of my life, which is fine with me. She trusts me to not fuck up, so she doesn't need to micromanage what I'm doing. If she asks how I'm doing in school, I'll say "fine," and that's all she needs to hear (fine meaning A's and B's.)

[Curiousasian]

my parents spoil me ALOT

[Ambrosia]

I have a ton of friends with families like this. When people see my family they get surprised because of how close we are. My parents have raised me in a way that I would love to raise my own children with the exception of their flaws. I tell them every time I'm going somewhere unless were fighting, we tell each other I Love You before we leave the house or go to bed, the works. The involvement stops at college though. Now I have to do everything for myself! :P

[AltoVaughn]

Thanks for sharing, I don't have the desire for my parents to be more involved. I'm just extremely uncomfortable around close families. It's like really bad, friends parents will be in the same room with us and I'll have like a minor anxiety attack, I'm not used to affectionate loving homes. Not that my home is anything less than Acceptable.

[AltoVaughn]

my parents spoil me ALOT

What do you mean?

With buying you stuff?
Or Doing things for you?
Or spending time with you ?
Or all of the above.

[AppealToReason]

No, it's not odd at all.
My parents were never really involved with me at all. The only person really involved in my life is my grandmother (who I now live with) but there are still times when I have to be completely independent. Earlier this year she had to be put in the hospital for a few months, was pretty much home alone the whole time.
There are a bunch of independent kids out there.

[judahtics]

nope not odd at all. it's just a different type of parents.

[Syvelocin]

I feel like I'm on both sides of the spectrum as far as that goes. Now, of course, I'm much more independent. But for the first half of my life, I was sort of forced into growing up, into being more independent than a kid that age would be required to. But I was living with my aunt and had a lot of neglect/abuse for that period so that's to be expected. My parents... never were parents. Not in a bad way. But they did what the parents of my friends did. That's probably why we have the relationship we do, which is good, but also bad, because I had little boundaries as a teenager (well, when I was a younger teenager). Practically no discipline, very little actual parenting going on. My step-dad was a huge push-over until his kids with my mum came around and that's pretty much fixed now. My mum, I think, was so focused on making my quality of life better, meaning putting our relationship high in the priorities and just avoiding making my life worse (as her main concern when she was younger about having children was that she'd pass on the mental health genes, and I feel bad for her because exactly that happened). So she has always been a big sister and a best friend with the maternal nature there, but she often looked over the actual parenting, and I'm sure that was part of why I developed the rebellious and self-destructive behaviour that I had at that point of my life.

So to answer the question, yes and no. My parents are a huge part of my life, but did very little to get me where I am as far as typical parenting goes.

[jvballer]

fortunately for me my parent are very supportive and involved but your situation isn't odd at all, i have had friends who were or who still are in a situation like yours so i understand...

[Dimitri]

To the point that I might wanna punch them for being annoying