Omg make it stop!!!

[ackmedsgirl666]

im just so confused that idk what to do anymore.....
im in a relationship with this really great guy... hes so sweet to me... our relationship has been doing good up until last night.... it all started with ann marie.... she txted me and said she had broken up with her bf for whatever reason and that she wants me back..... im still getting over her and if i could i might consider taking her back but i love cody and don't wanna hurt him.... i feel that i have to stay with cody now and be with him because he took my virginity and thats how i want it to stay.. i gace my v-card to him for a reason... if i didn't love him we never wud have fucked. anyways now heres the 2nd problem..... my ex from 3 years ago got in touch with me last night for the first time in a year... it was nice to hear from him but he sounded disapointed with me because i got into another relationship..... it made me cry to think that maybe i am hurting him because i chose cody over him... the thing is that i was never able to fully love steven or even have feelings for him... i always thought of him as a brother and thats how i still want it to be..... i don't want to be with anybody else but cody.. and im tired of people trying to ruin what i have.....god put me and cody together for a reason and im glad we're together because hes my everything.
anyways can ppl give suggestions on how to make this drama go away in a nice way so i don't hurt cody and my future with him PLEASE!!!!

[Sage]

If you really didn't want to be with anyone but your current boyfriend, you wouldn't have posted this thread. If you want my honest opinion, I don't think you're emotionally stable enough to be in any relationship right now if a single conversation with an ex from three years ago can make you break down in tears (I don't even remember the name of my ex from three years ago.) You have better things to worry about at 18 years old than who you're going to be with when you're 70. All of these people are causing problems for you and I think you should start working towards emotional independence and doing something for yourself.

You'll never be in a good relationship if you're this emotionally fragile and dependent on other people.

[ackmedsgirl666]

ok i get what ur saying but i was okay until yesterday when this guy called me up and now cody is all upset and thinks im either gonna leave him for ann marie or steven and i never would do that to him because i love him way too much.... hes my everything and i never wanna hurt him never ever.

[Sage]

this guy called me up and now cody is all upset and thinks im either gonna leave him for ann marie or steven and i never would do that to him because i love him way too much....
Okay, then I don't think any of you are stable enough to be in a relationship.

hes my everything and i never wanna hurt him never ever.
That's an unrealistic expectation. Hurting people you care about can't be avoided, especially if avoiding it requires you to keep something to yourself.

[ackmedsgirl666]

i suppose so but like i said either in this thread or another i feel that i need to be with him after letting him take my virginity... its simple and too complicated for u ppl to understand

[Sage]

i suppose so but like i said either in this thread or another i feel that i need to be with him after letting him take my virginity... its simple and too complicated for u ppl to understand

Why do you feel that way? Virginity isn't a big deal. You shouldn't feel committed to be with someone just because of that if things aren't working out with them.

[oceandude33a]

it seems like your happy with cody, so txt the other dude and say, im sorry, i found someone else and im happy, if your really my friend you will understand and want me to be happy

[scouse-emo-chick]

You seem happy with Cody, but you just don't wanna hurt Ann-marie or steven, and Sage; virginity IS a big deal!

[ackmedsgirl666]

You seem happy with Cody, but you just don't wanna hurt Ann-marie or steven, and Sage; virginity IS a big deal!
thanks because virginity is a big deal for me.... especially who i lose it to.... and ur right i don't wanna hurt ann-marie or steven but cody is my everything and i don't wanna lose him or do anything that could potentially convince him otherwise that i don't want him..... either way i can't hurt him... and like i said before i lost my virginity to him for a reason... i won't just fuck anybody because usually i say no but cody was different i felt a connection to him..... not a fuck and chuck

[scouse-emo-chick]

Exactly darlin! You know what to do now ;)

[ackmedsgirl666]

lol so im guessing i just carry on with my current relationship and not let anybody or anything stop me :)

[ally_____]

ok, so i may not have to much expierience with realationships, but i do know a thing or two about being turned down, if you really love cody(and from the sounds of it, you do) and you want to let your ex's down a gently as posible then the best way would be to just tell them that, when they see how in love you really are, they will understand. it may hurt them for a bit in the begining, but it would hurt them more if they found out that you skipped out on love just so they wouldnt feel bad. and if you truly love cody, then i say dont hesitate to make sure he knows that everyday, that everyone knows that, dosnt matter what happened in your past, your young and in love! :)

[judahtics]

don't let anyone, current, past, or future lover push you around. in the end, you need to be happy.