Problem -_-

[Nathan13]

Im really close with my lil girl cuz who is 11 and we kinda fell out since she gets moany easily and then her best friends little bro's best friend plays a game i like and also goes on this site which is a bit like Habbo Hotel and you get best friends on it so i asked him to be my best friend on it and he accepted becuase we are good online friends though we have never met and then i added him on facebook and then i asked if he wants to meet up and play the game together or/and go out and play and he is 9 and im 14 so my cousin said: What are you doing trying to be best friends with an 8 year old? Sad..." and i just said no and sorta moan-walked away angrily and yes i said moan not moon.

So im not trying to get him to be my best friend but i want him to be a good real life friend.....is that ok?

And anything wrong with wanting to be his best friend?

[DerBear]

he probably does not see it that way. He sees it as a weird thing like i do have young people i know who i would say i was on friendly terms with but i would not hang out with them at all due to the fact that i am 15 almost 16 sure if i saw them in the street i would say "HI" or if i was looking after them i.e babby sitting i would play games but not hang out with them and be there best friend.

your cousin thinks its weird to be best friends with a 9 year old and it is kinda as i said be friendly but being best friends with a 9 year old when your 14 is a little weird

listen to your cousin he has a good point

[judahtics]

you are constantly asking about relationships, sexual or not, with younger people. the answers all seem to be the same, it's not a very good idea. i wouldn't allow my son to be around someone your age at 9. he doesn't need someone 5 years older, going through puberty, and God knows what else speaking to him in private about certain issue's. many here have said, get friends your own age. i'm curious, are you wanting our opinions and help? or justification? because all advice goes to the waste and you seem to ignore it anyway.

[Kujiro]

I feel its ok to really want to make someone your best friend, but some of such can not be forced, and at times friendships take alittle chemisty before it can happen.

But at the same time it would be alittle weird if you are thinking about changing yourself to suit him, you can try to understand him more, and talk to him in a way he enjoys talking to you,

You got to remember, hes 9 and there are things whereby he would not analyse like you do, the wavelength may be somewhat different.

But this should not hinder you from trying to make friends with him, sometimes it take perseverance and loads of patience before you are able to get thru to someone.

As long as there is a will there is a way, but thread carefully, you dont wanna turn things the wrong way; like a budding flower, needing tender and care, so does nurturing friendship.

All the best
*smile*

[Nathan13]

Ok well i dont want im to be my best friend thats what my cuz says i knew him on thjis website and he plays a game on the ds i play so it would be fun to go to the parks him and alot of other people: 10,11,12 year olds too its just my cousin is that way when if u drink out of a bottle then clean it and give it to ur freind its disgusteing all that stuff

im asking if its ok to be a general friond with him as in ill only go outside with him and stuyff with more people of diffeent ages with me

[oceandude33a]

i have a couple like really good best friends. on who is a year older then me and another one who is 2 years younger then me and im 15. i think you can be friends with him, but not to close. i also have friends who are 16-19 but ig i need someone to hang out with they wont be the first i call. so be friends with him, dont get too close and speak age appropriate with him, to be safe. hope i helped

[Nathan13]

i have a couple like really good best friends. on who is a year older then me and another one who is 2 years younger then me and im 15. i think you can be friends with him, but not to close. i also have friends who are 16-19 but ig i need someone to hang out with they wont be the first i call. so be friends with him, dont get too close and speak age appropriate with him, to be safe. hope i helped

I do im not gunna talk about stuff like that

[Nicky97]

It's a responsibility to take on a friendship like that. It's good stuff, but it's work, even if you are functioning at his level.

As long as you are still asking the nay-sayers if it's OK, maybe you are not ready to take on the responsibility of a young friend. There's no such thing as "OK". Do what your spirit tells you, and be ready to accept responsibility for the decisions you make.

I think it's great personally.

[Nathan13]

Thanks Nicky