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Nathan13
August 12th, 2011, 11:07 PM
Ok many have read my post about my cousins(Girl,11) best friend who is the same age as here that i have a sort of crush on well heres a story:

I play a DS game that my cousin got me into and the girl plays it too and also her 9 year old brother now i want to be freinds with her and her bro and go to thier house and play the game ect but since i only seen this girl a few times and seen her dad once and know her brother from an online game where i also know her its a bit hard to make a friend that way now i asked my cousin if she could bring her bff over o stay the night and we can all play but i have some worries:

My big 18 year old male cosin who is very moany(little cousin says she wants to kill him and they are bro and sis) he will most likey do 2 things; say you are 14 why are you playing with your little cousin and her friend you barely know and probebly tell my school "friends". I also said in the conversation of asking her to ask her best friend to sleep over i said this "..and maybe bring her bro(age 8) too lol?" for a sorta joke even though that wouldt be awesome.

Then she said "Well you could stay at hers"(girl i like barely know ect)
And i said"wouldnt it be wierd? i barely know her."
She said: "well you cvould stay in tom's(8 yo) room or john's(a 13 year old who is ok friends with the friend of the "bullys" in my school althoufgh im good friends withy the bullies big 16 yo bro)
I would love to do this but i have worries too-

My big cousin(18) would have a say in this like " your 14 stop playing with 11 and 8 yo's

My parents(who really want me playing with 14 yo's) will say something

Im shy so i dont know thier 13 yo bro so it will be awkward it will be hard ill be like " hi i play a ds game with your younger family members"




Lastly- the 8 yo has a best friend(9) who plays the game and goes on this online game and i said why dont we all meet up in the park an play but of course i cant play the ds game so its a bit hard to play with them this way is this ok? wanting to be friends with someone this young?

Please answer my 3 q's

DerBear
August 13th, 2011, 12:15 AM
Well you see it is a problem to be or try to be "best friends" with 8 or 9 year olds you are 14 and really need to hang out with someone your own age as it can have affects on your mind.

Your parents want you to hang out with 14yo and so does your cousin

you need to hang out with friends that are your own age

What happens when you get older and you vgo for job interviews as you will need to hold a mature conversation and speak to people older than yourself not younger.

its a critical part of growing up

Nathan13
August 14th, 2011, 07:07 PM
Yes i can speak to adults but for some reason my shyness stops me speaking with most 14 and 15 yr olds

Contra
August 14th, 2011, 07:31 PM
I think it would be better to let it go, sleeping at their place, barely knowing them, would really be awkward and weird. And although you shouldn't do what your cousin says just because he says it, I have to agree with him, it would be better for you to be friends with people your age, in fact, it would be a lot better for you to become friends with that John, who is 13, that is closer to your age.

oceandude33a
August 14th, 2011, 07:35 PM
kinda in the same boat, i have friends who are 2 years younger then me and my parents go like oh why dont u go over so and so house. it seems like they only have a problem with kids younger then me, ive gone and hung out with kids 16-19 and they dont care, so i guess im cinfussed as well

Nathan13
August 14th, 2011, 07:48 PM
Ok i actually did stay it was fine i got along with john ok but i wouldnt really say i good freind or a general one just someone i know

Contra
August 14th, 2011, 08:31 PM
Well, of course you can't become good friends when you first meet, right? I think that if you got along with him, perhaps you should work on that friendship instead of focusing on the younger siblings.

Nathan13
August 14th, 2011, 08:53 PM
Well, of course you can't become good friends when you first meet, right? I think that if you got along with him, perhaps you should work on that friendship instead of focusing on the younger siblings.

But i find the youngerones fun. Playing xbox all day isn't fun.

I like to play DS games, go out and get chased off of people stuff like that like what the youngers like

kinda in the same boat, i have friends who are 2 years younger then me and my parents go like oh why dont u go over so and so house. it seems like they only have a problem with kids younger then me, ive gone and hung out with kids 16-19 and they dont care, so i guess im cinfussed as well

2 years is om they are 13 i was around 11, 11, 8 and 9 yr olds

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judahtics
August 14th, 2011, 08:56 PM
nathan13, do you have some form of autism or other condition that may make you act younger than you are. maybe a mental disability? i'm not asking to be rude, i'm asking because ALL your posts want approval to do this.

Nathan13
August 14th, 2011, 09:07 PM
nathan13, do you have some form of autism or other condition that may make you act younger than you are. maybe a mental disability? i'm not asking to be rude, i'm asking because ALL your posts want approval to do this.

I really have no clue i would say no though.

Immaturity is the problem im too immature and my big cousin is also a big probelm he kinda ruins my life: Telling me santas not real at 6 years old, when i was like 11 making fun of me for playing pokemon saying i should act 13 when i was only 11. i eventually decided to agree with him and do what all other kids my age are doing exept drinking and smoking: staying in playing xbox not socialising which means now when xbox gets boring i want to go out and play, go to frineds houses that do the same. is this why?

Also becuase when im in my age group i get: made fun of, picked on, not listened to ect but when im with youngers i am the "cool" one everyone likes me and stuff for example: when i went to the house the 8 yr old that i new from the website ran to the door and was like omg cool ect, wanted to show me around his house ect. is this why?

SilentKillah
August 18th, 2011, 03:13 AM
I have to say its really weird that you find an 11 year old attractive. She's like a little kid. It might just be me who thinks this since I have a 11 year old sister myself... but really? 11 years old? That's odd man.
And it would be even more strange to hang out with little kids, even at 14. I just sense alot wrong with this situation.

LivierGleek
August 18th, 2011, 12:10 PM
It's tottaly fine. I have a friend which is like 6 or 7 years old and i'm almost 15.. There's nothing weird about that. Only bullies can make fun becoz of your friends, but you said you're good friends with them so i think they'll be ok with that ;)

Nathan13
August 19th, 2011, 07:19 PM
It's tottaly fine. I have a friend which is like 6 or 7 years old and i'm almost 15.. There's nothing weird about that. Only bullies can make fun becoz of your friends, but you said you're good friends with them so i think they'll be ok with that ;)

yeah thanks
little guys that are like 6< are fun becuase they are babies lol no offense to your friend