He's so confusing!!

[BadWolf]

So the only reason I joined this forum was to get advice on this specific boy, and I apologize that I make posts related to him quite frequently. Well then... I still have no idea what I am to him. Let me lay down all the information and then I'd appreciate it if you all would help me figure out where I stand. Ok so: We met over a year ago and I didn't like him like that, we were just good friends. We became better and better friends. He was always closer to me than to our other theatre friends. Then, last hmm May? I think. Some crazy stuff happened and he agreed to pretend to be my boyfriend for the night (long story lol) thats when I started to like him. We were always flirty. Like, REALLY flirty. I thought he was like that with all of his girl friends. So that kind of bummed me out. But now I'm not so sure. The next show we were in together we really only hung out with eachother. He got asked to prom by an older girl and he said yes, so the rehearsal after prom I was sad, but I still asked him how it was and he said "Lame". That made me feel A LOT better. Then another thing I was worried about was this girl we both knew was coming to see the show and they had flirted too, but when she came he just hugged her, said "hi" and then walked away! Everyone at the theatre always teased us about liking eachother. On the last show I went to the boys dressing room to say goodbye and one of the boys yelled "Hey (name here)! Your girlfriends here!" and neither of us said anything, we just hugged goodbye for a really long time. we stayed in touch and went on a few "dates"? I guess. He invited me to go to a coffee place with him and then the other day he invited me to see a show with him. We also hung out a lot this past week. We went to the same coffee place and one of his friends came up to us and asked "Hey man, this your girlfriend?" "uhh no haha this is my friend Torry" "Oh..you two should date...I don't care if its awkward now" and we just kind of laughed. We also went swimming together. Now heres the thing: he doesn't date because he knows that more than one girl likes him and he doesn't want to hurt their feelings...yeah he's an idiot. I have no clue what to do about him. I'm not sure if he's a "player" or not, I'm not even sure that he likes me! I just don't know what to do about him..

[anonymous53]

Ask him, he likes you. :) The worst that can happen is he says no and you two go back to being just friends.

[superhustler]

he likes you but he's just trying to stay on the safe side. I believe that he's been hurt before or something. So, you won't be able to get anything out of him. He ain't no playa, you'll have to do all the work by yourself. :( If I were him, I'd want you to walk to me and say something like, "We should go on a date sometime!". If he asks why, just say something like "I always had a thing for you, big boy!" and "Today at 0:00?".

Either you jump or your forget about him, your choice. The good thing about these kinda guys is that you don't have to worry about getting hurt. You'll know why after you become his gf.

[BadWolf]

I'm kicking myself because that guy coming up and asking if I was his girlfriend was the perfect opurtunity for me to say "Have you ever thought about us being an actual couple?". I have absolutely no experience with this sort of thing. You said I'd have to do all the work myself, so this is gonna be hard. He hasn't been "hurt" in the past, I know that as much. I don't know if he's had a girlfriend, probably. I know he has had his first kiss though.

[superhustler]

I'm kicking myself because that guy coming up and asking if I was his girlfriend was the perfect opurtunity for me to say "Have you ever thought about us being an actual couple?". I have absolutely no experience with this sort of thing. You said I'd have to do all the work myself, so this is gonna be hard. He hasn't been "hurt" in the past, I know that as much. I don't know if he's had a girlfriend, probably. I know he has had his first kiss though.

Don't look for opportunities, just go for it! Don't ask him about going out, instead, tell him. Like you're ordering him to go out with you but a little less aggressive because you don't wanna freak him out.

If you're sure he hasn't been hurt before, it just means that he's a shy one which means that it's gonna be a piece of cake for you!

So, forget about that for now. Next time you see him, tell him to go out with you. Like really jump on him if you know what I mean.

Make sure you don't confuse telling and begging. Begging will only worsen the case.

[PervertedStalker]

it sure seems tht he likes u. if ur not sure... i guess ask him? idunno lol never had this problem b4. well, good luck!

[BadWolf]

Well I know if I "jump" on him he will freak. Trust me lol And he's never seemed shy to me, I mean we do theatre and he really isn't afraid to get up on stage and make a fool of himself if need be. We hung out a lot this past week but then the last day we didn't at all, and I want to see him, but I don't want to seem clingy.

[senior.2013]

I like girls that I know like your 'relationship.' Honestly, I don't understand why guys always have to make the move. Maybe he's like me, he's timid. He's afraid of what you will say.

Believe me, if I wasn't afraid of the girls reaction, I'd have asked out plenty by now.

[Dack]

I know I'd find it really amazing if the girl made the first move, because it gets tiresome if it just us who are forced to do it.

I think you should just ask him out; if he does care for you, he'll likely say yes. Most people actually wont if you ask in person, so they'll at least give you a chance.

Go for it.

[BadWolf]

I'm pretty naive so what does that mean exactly? Ask out? On a date, or to be together? And did it count as a date if his mom saw a show with us? lol thanks guys, this is helping!

[Dack]

I don't think it would qualify as a date because of his mom being there, but i think what we meant by the ask him part is just ask him out on a REAL date, with just you and him. That way you can talk just the two of you and see if either of you want to go any further.

[BadWolf]

We do stuff like that often actually, so I doubt he would think that its a date

[senior.2013]

Tell him you want to go to dinner, or a movie, or both. If you don' want your mom to be there, tell her to get her own table at dinner or sit away from you at the movie. If he has the feelings, he'll say yes, trust me. :)

[BadWolf]

Haha dinner sounds so grown up, and we still can't drive. I guess I could ask my mom if I could ask him to a movie. Then it could just be us. He's probably coming to my b-day party next month, are there any moves I could make then that would lead us towards a relationship?

[senior.2013]

Tell him how YOU feel. If he says he doesn't feel the same way and still wants to be friends, Then you'll still be friends. If he says OK, give him a hug or something. Plan out what you wanna do.

I've said it before: you won't know until you try.

Email me if you need more help

[BadWolf]

I feel like even if I do tell him and he feels the same we still won't be together, cause he doesn't want a girlfriend..I don't think. Like I said, he's confusing. I really like him, and I don't want to ruin anything

[senior.2013]

Then forget the small talk, ask him if he would ever want a girlfriend, if he says Yes, or maybe, or why, then tell him your feelings. If he says no, tell him your glad the two of you are good friends.