coming out

[Shadowin]

ok so i have finally decided that i am bi/ gay i dont know how to tell people i love like my family or this guy i have a crush on i just dont know how to do it :blue: i have known since i was 10 i didn't quite know what this feeling was i just thought nothing of it and pushed it down but in the past couple years i have just been attracted to guys in my school help :(

[Infidelitas]

The easiest way to come out is to not think about it and just tell someone. Thats the way I did it. The more I thought about coming out, the less I wanted to do it. It got to the point where I couldn't hold it in any further, so with out thinking I told Mum and Dad. Best thing I have ever done.

I have recently told two guys that I like them. The first one was straight, but he was okay about it, and also made jokes about it. I have recently lost all I had for him (a story for another day). And I told one of my gay friends that I liked him. We are only friends, but we are really close now -- and later on might end up with a relationship later on. Who knows.

But the best advice I can give you, is to just say it. It might sound hard, but when you do it, you will feel relieved that you have. Thats the way I told them. I also found it easy to inbox them over facebook. But that might not be for you.

What ever way you do it, just make sure its from the heart, but the most important thing you can do is say how you feel.

Good luck! And I hope it all works out for you in the end :D

[Nicky97]

I'm not sure how to help, maybe you don't need to just yet. I do know this...
Never let anyone talk you into coming out. It must be your decision and nobody else's.

[AltoVaughn]

Well, I advise you to start with your closest friends. If you don't think your friends would support you... Then either you don't give them credit and they will or your right but they were never friends to begin with.

As for your family. That depends on your family. No one here knows them and how they would react. They don't need to know if you don't want them too.

[nameless12]

you can always tell you best friend wich you can trust and tell anything.
you can just start with the "what if i were gay" questions, thats what i did, if they answer thing like that they would accept you then go for it and tell them :)