plz help me

[bjj green belt]

Hi my gf cuts ALOTT and ive tried to help her but nothing works ): plz help me

[dontcare97]

You can't stop her completly with out taking away all sharp objects from her. Try talk with her. Get her to stop cutting for one hour at of each do or do something very distracting when she gets the urges. You have to ease off of it bit by bit over a long period of time or quit cold turkey.

[HeartCoreHannah]

The only thing you can do is talk to her. Let her know you love her and when she cuts, it hurts you too. Don't say hurtful things to make her try and stop. It will just make her situation worse. And when she gets the urges, let her know she can call you and you will talk her through it and try to keep her mind off it, and on something more positive.

Best of luck to you. (:

[bjj green belt]

Thank you

[Painted_Indian_Horse]

You can't stop her completly with out taking away all sharp objects from her.
taking objects away probably won't do anything, it's so easy to get a hold of more.

talk about it. ask her to call you when she feels like cutting or if she does. she might, or not, but it's worth a try. it's not gonna happen overnight, so patience is a virtue, as they say :P

[xktx]

just be a distraction, dont make her promise anything, cos if she breaks it (maybe not intentionally) then itll make the guilt worse. Its a difficult thing to stop. Help her through it, just be supportive, listen, although its difficult and you will never fully get it, try to understand. <3 x

[senior.2013]

As xktx said, help her go slow. Plan a day for the two of you where there is absolutely NO room in the schedule for her to go and cut. Try to understand her, and how she feels. If she wants you to listen, shut up and listen, if she wants to talk, talk, if she doesn't want to bring it up, don't.

From what Ive found, people will cut less if they have a schedule planned, people to help pre-occupy them, and no reason to. Theres usually a trigger or stresser: something in the family, something personal, a bad day, or something about themself. In the case of 'cutters' the relaxor or release comes from the sheer pain or the blood.

I put this on all my posts because I mean it with my heart: You have plenty of people on here who are more than happy to help you. If all you need is someone to listen, I'm here. My email is under my contact info and feel free to click it any time.

[Curiousasian]

just keep an eye on her and stop her when you see her cuttin