BDD and my bf...

[XxMurderedKissesxX]

Okai,so lately my BDD has gone to the extreme..Im fasting more and more,and today,I looked in the mirror,and bawled. I hate everything about my body. I cant even stand for my bf to so much as touch me,and he doesnt understand why..It makes me feel bad,but..I want to break down and cry because im so ghastly..Im loosing more weight then I ever have before,even when he tells me he loves me the way I am,or that im attractive,and have no reason to think im fat,I have to clench my teeth from yelling that hes a liar..and that in itself makes me feel horrible. UGH! Idunno what to do...

[judahtics]

if my gf had an eating disorder, i'd leave her, in a heartbeat. trying to convince her worth and beauty would be too much work and i'd say screw it.

[Angel Androgynous]

if my gf had an eating disorder, i'd leave her, in a heartbeat. trying to convince her worth and beauty would be too much work and i'd say screw it.

An eating disorder isn't something she can exactly control. :rolleyes: Also, how would you feel if your beloved left you because they didn't have the guts to stick with you through this difficult disease?

@Katt, have you consulted a therapist?

[judahtics]

i really don't care. if she was willing to put forth a real effort to get better, then that would be different, but i wouldn't deal with someone's lip service.

[Lethe]

At least you have a boyfriend. How about never dating and being over 17 years old? How would you like to be alone and ugly and unhappy? You should be grateful that you have a boyfriend that loves you. You really have no reason to complain. You look perfect, fucking 100x better than my ugly ass and face. You shouldn't be pushing your boyfriend away for no reason. Honestly.

Makes me feel like killing myself, to be honest. I don't mean to be rude, but...oh well.

[judahtics]

wow, time to hush maybe? and if you are so ugly, do something about it.

[Lethe]

I do do something about it. The thing is, there's only so much you can do. I've done everything possible except surgery, and it hasn't improved me. So? What else is there to do? No one would date me because of how I look. I know that for a fact. Even with surgery, will I have a chance? Probably not.

What frustrates me is that some people have boyfriends, but they still say they're ugly, even when the boyfriend says the girl is beautiful or perfect. It makes people like me feel even more inferior to the rest of the human race. It's nothing personal, definitely not. But it still makes me feel like crap.

[judahtics]

well stop complaining. telling this girl her post makes you want to kill yourself is waaay inappropriate. can't believe you'd sink so low. need some attention? ask for it.

[Lethe]

I'm not telling her that. I was telling her that she shouldn't (not as in you have to, but I suggest you should) feel the way she does. She has so much more than many other girls have. My post wasn't meant to be rude.

[judahtics]

sure sounded rude. you even admitted that and said, oh well.

[Lethe]

You obviously are only reading what you want to read. I'm sorry I came across as rude, but that was not my intention at all. I apologize.

[judahtics]

no actually i read the entire thing and all you said was how much worse your life is than hers and how she has no place to complain. pretty selfish really.

[Lethe]

No, I was saying that her life is better off than many other girls. I wasn't referring completely to myself. She has a boyfriend, and on top of that, he tells her she's beautiful and perfect the way she is. That's more than a lot of girls have.

If you knew how I feel about myself and my situation maybe you'd understand. But I don't expect you to, nor do I expect you to care. I said I was sorry for being rash. I'm going through a lot—little things irritate me and it tears me apart.

I never meant any offense to her. I am sorry if I came across that way. Let's leave it at that, please.

[judahtics]

at least i'll be nice to her i guess.

[bambino]

Okay, neither of you have been helpful frankly. Especially not you judahtics who I see posting inane comments all over the boards like telling suicidal people to eat mac and cheese? Hm. Yeah, real helpful.


@murderedkisses
don't worry hun. I have BDD too and it does get better. I was the same as you with my boyfriend I would never eat infront of him or let him see me without a lot of clothes on. I went on antidepressants and they really helped.
I know it feels like he's lying to you, but he wouldn't be with you if he didn't find you attractive. You will be so much happier when you start to accept your body the way it is.

[Angel Androgynous]

Okay, neither of you have been helpful frankly. Especially not you judahtics who I see posting inane comments all over the boards like telling suicidal people to eat mac and cheese? Hm. Yeah, real helpful.


@murderedkisses
don't worry hun. I have BDD too and it does get better. I was the same as you with my boyfriend I would never eat infront of him or let him see me without a lot of clothes on. I went on antidepressants and they really helped.
I know it feels like he's lying to you, but he wouldn't be with you if he didn't find you attractive. You will be so much happier when you start to accept your body the way it is.

This. I get that it's hard, but you have to have the courage to live. It's going to take strength to get over it. Like Bambino said, it gets better. C: I still think you should consult a therapist (if you haven't already) to help you in the long run. Good luck. ^_^

[Ambrosia]

Stop fighting in posts. If you have issues with each other, take it to PM.