That friend of mine ...

[DreamSeeker]

So my Ex who I went out with for a month, but then she broke up with me for taking it to fast seems to be really good friends with me. Lately she seems to be wanting to hanging about lots, trusts me with things and is truly a good friend.

But I have deep feelings for her, I have for ages. I mean since we first met, it's just clicked that we should be together but she does not see it. Everytime it's brought up she'll always divert the subject or just say boys and girls can be friends to.

I really have no guts whatsoever, I want to talk to her about it but it'd just be too awkward or ruin our friendship and I'm not sure what to do. I mean when we're watching movies she'll let me lay on her or vice versa, I could stare into her eyes and she would not care. I'm getting mixed signals and am really unsure.

[judahtics]

girls . . . ugh

[DreamSeeker]

Yeah, tell me about it. I want it to work, I mean we seem perfect. We like all the same things, I've got her into Doctor Who which is one of my favourist things ever. There's not much that we disagree on. I just wish she could know how I felt. I could tell her anything except this...

[judahtics]

i'm 14 and have been with my girl for over a year, but now she's getting to that "more commitment" phase. i can't stand it. she wants a promise ring and all that.

how old are you?

[DreamSeeker]

i'm 14 and have been with my girl for over a year, but now she's getting to that "more commitment" phase. I can't stand it. She wants a promise ring and all that.

How old are you?

14 1/2.

[judahtics]

maybe focus on just bein friends. give her some time. slowly start doing more "romantic" things with her and she'll get the point.

[DreamSeeker]

I guess, but what sort of things do you suggest. It's a pretty boring town in Norfolk, England I live in so not much to do.

All we really do when we meet up is go to the shops, talk about random things and watch DVDs. That's it.

[judahtics]

take her to eat? when i lived on the coast and she was near me, i took her on picnics to the beach and now i do the same, but to the park. i read with her, things she's into. i go to events she likes, like poetry readings and certain kinds of music. it's great for our relationship because she knows i care about what she cares about. you can always try subway rides, going nowhere. just going to go, that's one of my favorites. random things will make her feel special.

[DreamSeeker]

I could try but as I said I'm in a small town so there's not much to do. The beach is at least a 40 minute travel away but it depends if the bus route goes there or not.

And another thing is the whole other people sort of thing, even though we don't go out currently if anyone who knows us see's us. They'll likely bring it up, last time this happened they spread it round the whole school and it just ruins it for us. No doubt many people who know us will see us ...

[judahtics]

who cares? you aren't dating so no worries. and i'm sure there's a place for a picnic somewhere in your town.

[DreamSeeker]

There's a public park but as I said, I'd look extremly odd and someone would say something for sure.

Just curious, anyone else have any tips too. Trying to get all the help I can cause I can't do nothing as I suck.