Upset and gay

[Ashy]

hi a few days ago i realised a knew i was gay. All of a sudden i feel trapped and lonely even though i have a lot of friends. I do not want to come out till i am older and i have not told anyone. I am really worried that people might not accept me and it makes me feel really upset. All i want is someone to love and someone who supports me. Pleae give me advice and similar experiances i feel really upset and confused.

[Starlight Blaze]

Well first of all, there are tons of people that will love you and support you :)
Almost anyone on here would be willing to help, and I'm sure that you're not the only on at your school that is LGBT or any of that
If you want to be sure, try coming out to your closest friend or your mom or somebody like that :)
families and friends are often very supportive, even ones you might not suspect would be :)

[Kahn]

The realization of your sexuality shouldn't make you feel bad about yourself; on the contrary, actually. You should feel proud that you understand who you are in this world. Being gay doesn't mean no one will accept you, and though I'm not gay I have many gay friends of whom have earned my respect and support.

Come out when you feel the time is right. The people that accept you for who you are are your true friends. Those who don't simply don't need to be thought of.

Every single person on this earth is unique, but other people are going through the same struggle as you. You're not alone and the comments above and following mine will show how much support you'll get. We're a community willing to help.

[prob1996]

I can totally relate to what you are feeling. I always thought I was bi and just recently accepted the fact that I am gay. I'm not out to any of my friends and the only family I've told is my older brother. Even though he is very supportive, the best support I got was coming on here and talking to people. It really did help me realize that I wasn't so alone. I've met some really great people and got some very positive advice. I know, I know it sounds cheesy but it's true.

Come out when the time is right for you. Your true friends will be there for you.

[Tristin.]

well, congratulations on figuring your sexuality out.

As to your comments, you are never alone. many people have gone through and will go through the same experience as you, as others have said, if you need anyone to talk to, VT is here. You will probably still be a little confused and unsure in yourself for a few days, but thats ok and as to the scared feeling, dont be, you will always be loved for who you are, not for who others want you to be, but for who YOU are.

i may have rambled a bit, and for that i appologies, but if you want to talk, just send me a mail :)

[terbear]

1. Hugs from Orlando!
2. You don't have to come out until you're ready.
3. People are more accepting now.. you'll be fine :)

[logan fields]

i think you should love you for you and heck with everyone who doesnt like it. i think you should come out when you feel right about it or keep it secrete and wait until you feel ready. i dont think i am gay but something is wrong because some girls and some boys seem real cute to me and i get weird thought sometimes so i dont know whats wrong.

[judahtics]

unfortunately it's part of the lifestyle. society doesn't accept it very openly in most places making it hard on you. it's something you'll have to come to accept until it's changed.

[Maxxie]

unfortunately it's part of the lifestyle. society doesn't accept it very openly in most places making it hard on you. it's something you'll have to come to accept until it's changed.

A realist. Quite depressing, but a realist nonetheless.

Societies' views on homosexuality are changing, ever so slowly, but they are changing. There are people out there who will accept you no matter what, and if they don't, that's they're own problem.

I came to the realization of my own sexuality not to long ago. I'm bisexual, but I was convinced (not by myself, but by society as a whole) that I was more attracted to girls than guys. Look where that got me. Confused, hopeless, depressed... I didn't know what I was. Then, along came the day when I said "Fuck it!", and realized that I was gay. I had the most fleeting attraction for girls, but I was (and, you know, still am) gay. And that broke so many chains for me.

There are people you can trust. You're not alone, mate.

[judahtics]

i wish society would let people be who they are, but that's unfortunately not the world we live in. the only thing i really struggle with, is transgender. not that i'm against it, i just struggle with the concept.

[Nicky97]

Coming out is a gradual process, or it can be if you don't mess it up. Don't know your age, but I see no need to not let it proceed normally at a slow pace. There are lots of folks who are bi, or "a little funny", or in a "confused phase" right now, and nobody hates them for it.

First come out to yourself. You are in that process now. When you are comfortable with it yourself, THEN you are ready to start letting a few others in on it, maybe. Please don't rush it, don't turn into a gay activist and turn everyone against you.

[jessehs]

find someone smart and open and start with them

[Electra Heart]

Most will support you... don't worry about it I told my closest friends but I'm not COMING OUT until im a lot older...