Family issues

[sammy1996]

ok i dont know how to explain it properly so i might ramble on abit....
i have 3 brothers and a sister, brothers are 19 24 and 29 and my sister is 26.
my oldest brother,matt is a complete waste of space, i cant bear to be aroud him, he sells drugs (marijuana) on a small scale and my mum has been through alot wth him, after everything he has done which include smashing up his/our family home atleast 5 times, when i say this i mean burgled/smashed up in his drug fueled rage.
he has never had a proper job for more than a month and has recently come out of prison AGAIN.
my mum let him stay with us even though i think its only a mater of time before he goes nuts again.
before he came out of prison it was just me, my mum and her boyfriend who are now engaged (i love him like my own father).
but now with my brother her its just not the same, my mum stands up for him saying if he was born now he would have some mental problem diagnosed etc but nomatter what he has done nothing in my life to make me like him, all has done for me was make life stressfull, because of him we have had to move house 4 times in 14 years.
although he has hit my mum before she still sticks up for him, thanks to him she has issues with her nerves and doesnt like big social events unless its close family.
how can i explain to my mum i hate him in every way imaginable?

sorry for it being a garbled mess of a post but anyway, any suggestions?

[sammy1996]

i forgot to say, my real dad lives about 30 minutes away and although i love him i dont want to stay with him.
i go and visit often anyway

[Kujiro]

It is normal for your mum to be defensive over him, a parent would always be a parent, they are always the first to get angry with their children, and they would always be the first to forgive them.
Regardless of what mistakes they have made; the prodigal son.
Its in the nature of parenting to do so, the love of her children; Yes, including you, brings her give him a chance, regardless what he has done wrong.

You can sit down with you mum to tell him how much you really dont like him, but i'd suppose how much she accepts it is really up to her, and remember she is actually sandwhich in this sibling rivalry as well, chances she would not be actually telling him how much you hate him either.

But it more to a channel of getting it off your chest.
I understand its difficult to put up with his drug rages, but there is really nothing you can do but to try and understand the position your mum is in, and try to be more understanding in her position.

An option you may chose is to move out rather than putting up with all these, but before doing so, its wise to consult your mum and understand her feelings too.

I come from a broken family, in fact i dont see my real parents much; once a week, the most.
You should treasure the love your real mum is putting into your family, these are ties which should not be broken, what she needs is your support too.

Good luck
*smile*
P.S Use the edit button rather than double posting.