Love triangle.

[The Joker]

So, there happens to be this guy I like. I absolutely find him to be perfect, and recently, I found out he was bi. I’ve had a crush on him since I met him, but I repressed it a bit for a few months because I didn’t think he was gay or bi. I recently asked him anonymously via his blog his thoughts on gay people and he seemed so supportive that I told him I was gay using a Facebook message. He seemed completely cool with it and I later found out he was bi. Now, I would go for him, but there’s some problems. I’m honestly not sure if he’d really like me because we’ve barely talked to be honest, and I’m not 100 percent sure what he’s like. I do like him a lot from what I know, but I don’t know if he’d be interested in me at all. Also, from looking at his blog, he seems to very much in love with someone else and I’m not sure who that person is. It kind of breaks my heart seeing him post about wanting to see this person, wanting to be with them, and being in love with someone he doesn’t really know all that well…because that’s exactly how I feel about him.

There also happens to be this girl I like. Just like the guy I mentioned above, I’ve had a crush on her for a while. She’s very pretty, and I find her to be a very interesting/cool person. She seems to like me too, but I’m not sure to what extent. She seems like she wants to be in a relationship with someone, and she’s tired of being alone. I feel the exact same way.

The thing is? They’re best friends. I honestly feel like I’d have a better chance with the girl but I like the guy more…I’d hate to break up with her just because I find that he’s suddenly available. I really want him. I want to help her, pick her up, be her Superman, but I want the guy to be my knight in shining armour. I really don’t know what to do because I don’t know how long I’d have to wait for this guy or whether I’d have a chance or not…but I’m tired of being lonely. I just don’t want to break her heart in my attempt to be her Superman.

Pardon the corniness.

[Dack]

You know her more, so I think it might be best if you go for her. You seem to he having mixed feelings but you'll probably get along better if you choose her over him since you know how she is like. It sucks being split, I know, but ita probably the better choice.

Just hit ne up if you need to talk to someone about it face to face.

[Peace God]

I’d hate to break up with her just because I find that he’s suddenly available.
It doesn't sound like you want a relationship with the girl nearly as much as the guy. Plus think of the odds that the guy you've had a crush on actually turned out to be bisexual, maybe you should try going for it. Are you sure he's completely unavailable at the moment?

[Upintheair]

To me, it sounds like you are far more interested in the guy than the girl and it wouldnt really be fair to date her just because you dont think you have a chance with the guy. You should give it time, and get to know the guy better. Talk to him, and see what type of person he really is. Its shocking how different people can be when you really get to know them. Also, get to know him on a friendly level first! I know how much it hurts to be in a relationship with someone that has feelings for someone else, and I can say that I would have had so much more respect for this person if they had just not even asked me out in the first place. Good luck!

[Kahn]

To me, it sounds like you want to have a relationship with the guy more than the girl. You certainly care for the girl, and want to help her, but creating a relationship with her and making yourself unhappy because it may be more beneficial to her isn't something I'd advice doing. Instead, become closer with her, and help her through her problems. Talk to her when she needs it, give her time to explain things, and give her personal advice.

When it comes to the guy and not being close enough to ask him if he's interested in you, just become closer with him. Hang out with him when you can and become good friends with him. Eventually, when you feel it's right, ask him if he's ever thought about you in a more intimate way. See if he's interested in you.

That's basically it. Good luck, Matt.