I like her, but...

[binsoku6]

There's this girl in my grade and I've had a crush on her since middle school (some of my friends know about her, but I don't think many know). Even now, five years later, I still will slip her an anonymous Valintine each year, not much, just some simple origami and a nice, postive note. The few times I've sat with her in class or worked with her on projects, we always can share a smile and a laugh. The only problem is that she is dating another guy who I don't feel gives her as much respect as she deserves (at least what I've seen at school). I'm really shy (but nerdy) and I want to be a platonic frind with her, but I have no idea on how to approach the situation. Can I please get some advice?

[Unsolvedmind]

Gee this is a toughy? My advice would be to start talking to her a bit more and try to spend more time with her. Sorry but that's all I can think of right now. So tell me if this work :) :D

[IAMWILL]

Oh good lord I know this situation.
The agony is you have two options, and you might not like either.
The first option is that you move on and accept that you may have missed your chance to date her, because from what I can tell she see's you as a friend and really isn't interested in dating. (This is just my analysis, i could be wrong).
The second option is that you really start talking to her more often and trying to get her attention to show that you like her, but in a way that says i want to be your boyfriend, not your friend, because i don't like your current boyfriend. Girls, like guys, want someone of the opposite sex they can talk to. Normally, thats their boyfriend. However, when they don't want to talk to their boyfriend but want to talk to another guy, thats where a good friend (you) come in. When they have that friend, they feel secure about their relationship because they know they have someone to fall back on, so they don't break up. By removing yourself from the friend position, next time something happens, she may not have the same cushion of guy friends to fall back on and talk to, and she may break up with her current boyfriend, making you a viable option.
Not likely to happen at all, but those are really your options. Start acting like you really want to be her boyfriend, or move on.

[Vegito]

as others say, try flirting w/ her, nothing major, just flirt. Then if she flirts back, ask her out. About the matter of the bf being a douche... write an annnomys note to her telling her your opinion, and that if she wishes to talk to email you at an email that you make, a random one, like [email protected] make the email 1st b4, but dont have it b ur own, and dont make it obious. in the note, be descriptive to a dertain extent, dont call him a douche or she will ignore it, say something sweet and nice, like I dont think (inset bfs name here) treats you right. then list some examples. I dont really know, im only 13, almost 14, so I'm probobly not who you were hoping would answer your question. Either way, good luck, and post wat happens!

[Vegito]

rofl not to spam the forum, but by the time i typed my responce up, that guy above me posted, he wasnt there when i started, rofl XD

[Kayden]

Oh, I've been In this situation for the past year and It sucks.

I would say the best thing would be that if shes sad about something i.e. Her boyfriend disrespecting her. Be her shoulder to cry on. Give her advice on how to fix her realtionship, but also question about If he is right for her.

Being the shoulder to cry on when a realtionship is going bad, breaks the realtionship apart as she may realise "My boyfriend dosent give me this much support."

Just be her friend, and maybe drop a few hints along the way.

[music is my soul]

I agree with all these guys but if u dont mind i would lik to add that if u see something happening between her and her current boyfriend and hes treating her really disrespectfully dont be scared to jump in for her. Girls lik guys who will fight for them. But thats all i can really add. Hope it helps.

[binsoku6]

Umm..i don't want to date her a this point. I just want to be her friend, but once again I get shy around her

[binsoku6]

I would like to also say that I don't entirely know how her boyfriend treats her (I don't stalk her, that'd be creepy). I mean she's is into him since I saw on her facebook saying "Making a tie blanket for *******" so I 'm guessing that I may have sounded harsh by saying that quote "gives her as much resepect as she deserves".