girl problems

[judahtics]

my gf and i have been together for over a year, but recently we've been having some issues. not to the point we want to end the relationship, but to the point we are arguing a lot. it's mainly over commitment on my part. since we've been together so long, she wants something to show i'm committed to her. she wants something like a promise ring. the only problem is, i'm 14 and i don't know if we're going to end up together for life and i don't want to lead her on. i do care for her a great deal, but at this point, i've never even said i love you and we are in a sexual relationship. any advice?

[DreamSeeker]

This is just my opinion but are you sure if its genuine if its sexual and you haven't said/hinted that you Love eachother? Also its a bit soon for a 100% commuted relationship at 14 and I've been through it. The toughness.of school and.other various factors will be difficult to juggle with it.

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[xktx]

try just talking to her, tell her how much she means to you (if she does) tell her your not ready, however, to make really big decisions just yet. If she doesnt understand an causes a massive huff, sorry, but shes obviously not as in love as she appears to be. xx
(ONLY IF YOU TRULY MEAN IT) try telling her you love her. xxx

[judahtics]

she's a good girl and she loves me, i know that. i'll try talking to her and see what we can work out.

[Upintheair]

Yea, definitely talk to her! And just explaining a promise ring, it isnt anything like an engagement ring. Its a promise you are making to her. So, you could give her the ring and say that your promise to always be there for her and that you promise to do your best to not let anything hurt her. That would be a good way of showing her you care, without stepping away from what your comfortable with!

[judahtics]

i know what a promise ring is, i'm just not comfortable with giving her one.

[dontcare97]

Yea you are too young. I think 14 is way too young to know if you love someone in a romantic way. You haven't even been on earth long enough to drive legally. From what I've seen, girls give away their hearts too quickly without a long termed outlook. Tell your girlfriend what you said here. You aren't sure and that's perfectly okay. You have many years before yo can marry and even more years until you want to get married. If she really has feelings for you, then she would respect your decision and wait a while, maybe after high school?

[judahtics]

possibly. she will be out of high school a year before me, so she'll have to wait and even then, wait until after i'm out to be old enough.

[Spock]

well my ex gf and i were close but ended up moving apart during the summer and i just broke it of with her a few days ago but dont follow me i regret it sometimes just buy here a build a bear and write a poem in it or something thats what my friend did

[judahtics]

she might end up being the girl i marry, who knows. it's to soon to say, but i'm thinking about getting her a bracelet.

[IAMWILL]

I say if you're not comfortable with it, don't do it. I mean you're 14, 14!. No one should be making these heavy decisions until you're out of high school really.

(In no way am i saying because i'm 15 i somehow qualify to make a decision like this it is just my opinion that at 14 you are to young).

[judahtics]

if we are still together at 15/16, i'm prepared to ask for her hand in marriage.

[Dwsjoker]

I'm 14 and I will say unless you LOVE her not LIKE her should you even concider a promise ring. You need to open up to each other and let your feelings out. Iv'e never been in love. I'm not an outgoing person but I do know basic psycology

[judahtics]

i don't want to give her one, she wants me to, but i'm not comfortable with it right now.