I really need advice.

[Kayden]

Long story short: 6 months of helping her get over her ex, she gets back with him. A few weeks later she forgets about me. We barely talk anymore because he disapproves of our friendship. Shes my bestfriend and I've been 'In love' with her for several months. She has a boyfriend, but questions the stability of her relationship (she is unsure about her feelings towards him).

It's killing me everyday knowing that I can't have her. I've never felt this way about a girl before and I don't know how to deal with it. My depression is coming back and It's getting to the point were I've considered cutting myself after stopping eight months ago. Our friendship isnt what It used to be, half of this is because she dosent talk to me anymore and half is because I can't bring myself to talk to her because It depresses me.

I really need advice. Would it be a good idea to share my feelings/thoughts with her (she is my bestfriend)? How should I go about getting over her? How can I get my friendship back with her?

[judahtics]

its just a girl. remember that, it's just a girl. at least she's still your friend.

[Hopegirl]

Ok thats the worst advice ever! " its just a girl" well no s**t sherlock but if he loves her then he cant exactly just let it go..*sigh* no wonder you guys hve problems with relationships..you ask your friends for advice e.g...other males -.- Just try get talking to her..just make her think about wether her relationship is really worth giving up your friendship ? To be honest, if my boyfriend told me to not talk to bestfriend of mine id dump him xD Maybe you dont need to get over her ? i mean..i know people will disagree but ive always believed that if two people really are ment to be..it will happen..:) and finally if you want your friendship back..just ask her why does her boyfriend disaproove of your friendship (sounds like jealousy to me tbh) Just try talking to her..explain to her how your feeling and then she might get a clue about the fact your in love with her.. P.s well done on 8 months not cutting..dont let this get you down.i know its hard when the temptation is there..just haang on in there <3

[loveconquers]

I think you should tell her how you feel. It's never good to hold these things in, especially if you're thinking about going back to cutting yourself or engaging in other self destructive behaviors. If you're scared to do it face to face, as cheesy as this sounds you should maybe write her a letter, or send her an email or something. Just let her know how you've been feeling. Tell her that you miss hanging out and try to get her to open up about her relationship with this other dude, and why she feels it's more important than your friendship, tell her how it makes you feel when she neglects you. Ultimately when you all get everything out in the open you'll feel a lot better, no matter what happens after that.

[judahtics]

she's just a girl and not worth losing his cutting sobriety over. no one is.

[Hopegirl]

Yes thats very true..so why do we self-harm in ther first place ?cuz thers always a person behind it...However..i bet if he leaves it..and he does lover he..he will regret it and just get depressed and cut..so...

[xktx]

try telling her, the worst thing in life is not knowing what she feels honestly about you. :/ This may be terrible advice... but its what I would do. x

[Kayden]

Thanks for the advice guys (: I'll call her tonight and talk about this with her.