Attention

[morbidmonkey]

Yes i self harm and i and attracted to punk rock things (and i know i'm gonna get a lot of shit for this becuz i usually do). But seriously does that make me a poser? I went shopping today and i saw this slightly spiked bracelet and my sister said "you're looking for attention". I don't look for attention, but rather i like to look unique. My family probably thought i was looking for attention the last time they found out. But tell me, based on what i've said here, do u think i'm poser or i'm just looking for attention? Don't lie please, lots of people call me a poser, i can take it

[Skyhawk]

If you're really into that kind of stuff and like to look unique etc. then you aren't a poser. :)

Pretty much if you legit like it and find it cool or interesting or <insert positive statement here> then you aren't a poser. Posers pretend.

[dontcare97]

i get what your saying. No you not a poser. People self harm for different reasons. it's not lik you cut your wrist and shoved it into everyone's face. you did it because you wanted to. Do you.

[Syvelocin]

I think attention is part of it. But before you call me out on that, there are varying degrees of it, and no, you're not an attention-seeker.

If you didn't want attention, you wouldn't dress like that. But there is a difference between people who dress in their style and people who dress ONLY to gain attention from people. The same thing with self-harm. I don't think there are many people who can seriously admit to not enjoying a tiny bit of the attention you get from self-harming. I'd be lying if I said I didn't like it. But again, it is only attention-seeking when it is the only motive behind your actions.

Dressing for self-expression will give you lots more attention than dressing in the same shit everyone else does. But it's attention achieved because of a good thing, instead of attention achieved for the sake of attention.

[xktx]

your just yourself, your not a poser, you just not ashamed of who you are. x

[judahtics]

so many people dress like that to be unique, it's not unique. but that goes for any style. generally style matches a persons personality, so without knowing you, i couldn't make a sound decision. wearing punk style clothes, but listening to country music isn't sometime you'd expect and would be called a poser, especially if you tried hiding your true likes from others.

oh yeah, and a lot of people say anyone out of the societal normal is looking for attention. something i learned along time is this, if you know what's true, that's all that matters, you have nothing to prove or anyone to please, unless you believe in God.

[morbidmonkey]

where i live not much people are into the rock thing so i guess thats why i like it

[ShadowGirl]

I like to dress weird because I don't want to be part of the crowd. It's not really for attention. I just don't like looking like everyone else. And no, I don't think you're a poser.