Telling people you cut

[xXl0sth0peXx]

Any advice on how? I've been in therapy for months now, and my therapist thinks I might be depressed, but she doesn't know, and it's never even come up in our months and months of talking together. I have past suicide attempts, which she knows about..
Background.. in case it makes it easier to give advice.. I've been cutting for about.. 9 months now. I first started when I had to go to the hospital for a physical rehab. It was intense, and it took a toll on me. so I cut one night.. just a few small cuts.. and i loved it. I didn't know what i was doing, so the next day, I went around showing people and when they asked, I said it was a fence. Most believed me.. anyways.. someone there told my therapist back and and she wanted to check me out, but I refused and talked her out of it. And that was the last of that. And now.. 9 months or so later, i'm "hard core" cutting.. i have at least 60 scars up my arm, and more come each day.. i don't know what i want.. but i feel like i have to tell someone.. but i just don't want my parents finding out.. they can't find out.

Thanks! :)

[love is louder]

accidentally show her (thats what i did)
then she asked me about it and i kinda regretted it and shot her down
she rang me and told me to write a letter to her telling her what i was in therapy for then she said she will open it when im ready for her to see it.

hope this helps

[xDarkAngelx]

I feel exactly like that, wanting to tell someone, not sure who or how. But definetly not hany family member...

[XxMurderedKissesxX]

I dont want to discourage u from telling ur therapist,but if ur in a certain age group,they have to tell ur parents,by law. Remember,once u tell someone,u cant take it back,so make sure ur ready. I know how hard it can be to share something so personal about urself,with someone else. U could write her a letter,tell her over the phone,simply show her,or make little hints and wait for her to ask u.

[ImperfectMess]

I told my therapist yesterday and it was surprisingly easy. It was a hot day and I was wearing a jumper and I think she suspected and so asked. I just said yes but didn't really elaborate. I did ask if she had to tell my mum and she said no, not unless I was planning on killing myself or someone else, and if I didn't want it didn't even have to go on my medical notes.

Because of everything that happened to me, she reclassified me as a high risk case and I have to see a more qualified therapist but she said that isn't common so you might be able to stick with the same therapist. They are the best people to tell first as they have heard it all before so they aren't going to be shocked.

Good luck! And feel free to PM me if you want to talk more privately :)

[NobodysCupOf Tea]

I've told quite a few people, probably too many.

I've broke down a couple times and just let everything fall out. It's wierd but I did it for the reactions. The shock and support, it was a different kinda rush for me.

My advice would be not to show your scars. When I showed my brother he fainted. When I showed my mum it was like I was making a big deal out of nothing.

Also explain why as much as you can. It's likely that whoever you tell they will not fully understand your thought process, just take it slow and try not to scare them.

Good luck and inbox me if you need to!

[xktx]

sometimes telling people helps. But you just have to tell them slowly, maybe showing them deep scars or cuts is not a good idea, explain to them how life is really tough or something at the moment, then mention the cutting a little while after, and slowly as well as you can explain why. It might seem annoying or difficult, but trust me, if you have understanding friends its very useful. xx

[Bath]

Telling somebody is probably the hardest thing ever. But if you really don't want to do it anymore, and want to feel more carefree and less stressed and sad all the time, I strongly suggest you take a couple of deep breathes.. mentally prepare yourself for any reaction you'd get.. and just go for it. If you feel like crying when explaining so, do it. Therapists usually have to tell your parents when you harm yourself, so she's probably going to do that.

I hope you have a good therapist too. Cause if you do, hopefully the point of doing that will happen, and you'll get & feel better.

[Alexis goes Rawr]

well im not sure if this will really help but it wrked so it couldnt hurt right? One of my best friends in the entire world told me she cuts a few months ago, she and i have gone through alot of the same things growing up so i really did understand. She and i write notes and letters to eachother all the time and one day i could tel she was sort of upset over something so i told her to write me a letter. She just wrote a sentence and handed me a piece of paper, she had asked do u cut? At this point i hadnt started yet, so i wrote back no but u do? After that we talked and she told me everything and i understood her and promised not to tel
I think the key is to tell someone who you can really trust completely and who will hav a good chance of understanding what uve gone through and not judgeing - i know i spelled that wrong- you for what youre doing

[Love.Hate]

If you struggle to say it face to face, why not write a letter, explaining everything. Or maybe an email? I know how that is how i told a few people because i couldnt bring myself to say anything face to face. Also its good because i sent mum a link showing what it was, and that its a coping meathod. Its really however you feel most comfortable. :)

[Aubrie]

Telling someone is one of the scariest things, but it's also one of the best you can do for yourself. My therapist already knew (that's what I was going for), but I can share how I told someone.

I went to a youth group with a few of my close friends. They tried to get me to stop, but it was out of hand. My best guy friend suggested that I talk to the youth leader. We came up with a plan. I stayed after youth group one night with my friend. He told our youth leader that I had something that I needed help with and he stayed with me throughout the entire time for support. It was sooo relieving! Once I first said, "For a while, I've been cutting myself and I don't know how to stop," it all just poured out.

Once you get past that first sentence, it gets easier from there. Your therapist won't have to tell your parents unless you're suicidal. Just take a deep breath and tell her. It's hard, but it's one of the best things you'll ever do for yourself.

[soconfused]

I use to cut. I had only told my close friends. They all started because of me and one of my friends tried suicide. So than that's when I called quits on cutting. All I said was: (name here), I have to tell you something. Please don't get mad at me or anything and I know it's wrong and bad but I cut. Everyday I try my hardest to stop. Please don't tell anyone else or anything like that please.
That helped me. My school had found out because my friend had went and told a teacher and then my mom got contacted. She didn't care so that triggered it more then my friend tried suicide and I stopped.