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LuckyLuke
August 3rd, 2011, 12:19 AM
Hello everyone, I apologize for the length but your advise, opinion, and support would be greatly appreciated.

My girlfriend and I have been seeing one another for approximately 6 months and have officially been dating for a bit over 3. Everything, despite both of our lack of relationship experience, had been amazing- then we both went on vacation.

Last month she went away to a Mock Trail camp and directly afterward to a "medical preparation-study program for HS students". There was only a day in between and, because we'd be unable to see one another, I left a rose and stuffed penguin on her doorstep. She was surprised and really excited.

In between all this, I went on a trip while she was at the medical camp and I'm still away but will be returning shortly and we have a date on the 4th.

Now, during our vacations we had been texting regularly and up until she got to the first camp she had been her regular, flirty, nice texting self. I blamed the impersonal texts and single phone conversation to how busy she was and was totally fine with that- she's on vacation!

... but now she's returned and she isn't back to her old self. Her text messages are still generally one word responses, she never texts me first (although she's a bit old fashion and may want me to do it first, always), and they're generally 30 mins+ apart. When I tried calling her she had family over, which is fine, but she didn't even attempt to propose another date or time.

I brought up my concerns to her by asking if everything was okay with "us" and expressed what I've expressed to you and she said, "we're okay".

I'm unsure. I've sent her messages saying, "I can't wait to see you! :)" and, "I miss you :(" on a few separated occasions and she didn't respond to either. Even now as I type this after a string of texts I sent a message saying, "I can't wait to see you!" and, an hour later, my phone has yet to ring with her name.

She's not the greatest of texters and never really has been but she's stopped calling me "Sunshine", recently smileys have been near non-existent and a <3 hasn't happened since she left for vacation.

As I've stated previously, we have a date VERY soon. We plan on getting ices and going somewhere to talk or do something. Originally, we were going to meet at the ice place near my house but instead she requested to move it near her house. (I'm assuming it's because we wanted to watch the stars and her mother wouldn't be comfortable with her far away after dark).

I don't think I've done anything wrong and she hasn't so much as spoken a word of complaint.

What do you think is going on? Is she planning on breaking up with me? I know I can't prevent the inevitable but I really don't understand what the hell happened. She's certainly not the girl to cheat so I don't see that as a possibility- she despises the girls in her school who do that. What should I do?

Any advice or opinons would be GREATLY appreciated.

Dack
August 3rd, 2011, 12:25 AM
I think for your situation you'd be better off to wait until you do see her, and when you do ask her why she's not been replying to your texts and not being herself. If you suspect somethings up because of how she says anything, then there probably is something.

Guillermo
August 3rd, 2011, 01:59 AM
Yeah I think it's best to wait until you actually see her...A possible reason why she hasn't responded to your text messages or just hasn't been herself lately is that maybe she's been a bit caught up in her life and has been distracted a lot. I have a friend (girl) that I used to be very close with and we used to text each other a lot annd hang out with each other...but over the summer she got caught up a lot with her job and other things (family, camps, vacations, etc.) but that didnt mean that we weren't friends anymore. And also another reason could be that she hasn't seen you in a while because of everything going on during the summer...so paying each other a visit might sorta renew your bond with each other...again these are just possible reasons why but I hope everything goes well!