Are we real?

[XomaggsoX]

okay so I have known my boyfriend for a year now. We met online but actually got really close. We dated and it always ended up he cheated on me or "messed" around with girls near him... Hes 2 years older than me and he claims he loves me... i love him to death. We have broken up so many times this year but we actually have been going out longer this time its been a month and a couple days.. Hes lied before about his picture and even his name! He lives in Texas and im in New Jersey... he claims he has cancer but he wont let me go see him. Also he wont come see me.... Are we a fake realtionship or are we real? :what:

[TheMatrix]

I am sorry to say this, but this is a fake relationship.
Unfortunately, 99% of people on dating sites are not actually interested in a relationship, but merely money.
The fact that he claims to have cancer but doesn't want anyone to se him is a big red flag - he really does want money. Who knows, if you end up dating him, you might have an alchoholic or drug-addict as your husband.
And you wouldn't want that -- would you?

I therefore advise you to find someone else.
Best of luck! :)

[Upintheair]

Yes, Im sorry but this just isnt a real relationship. Not only has he cheated on you, but he refuses to come see you or let you come see him, you two break up all the time, it is long distance, and you dont have any sort of physical relationship going on. You should try to separate yourself from him and find someone near you that will make you happy

[XomaggsoX]

I should shouldnt i xD

[UnknownError]

Yeh, pretty much ditch him.

[HaydenM]

There is nothing wrong with long distance, but I'm sorry if I were slowly dieing of cancer I would want to be around the people I love, and if he doesn't want you to be that person, you obviously deserve better.

[Steve01]

leave him

[Ambrosia]

Long distance relationships in which the couple have never met each other never work out. Or, at least, not that I have ever seen. The second you found out about him lying about his name you should have ditched him.

The fact is that you are fourteen years old and very capable of finding a guy in which you can see in person to date. You should try doing this, because people you can see can't lie about their pictures!! Online relationships usually have one or both of the people seeing real life people on the side and it's very easy to hide such a thing since you will never meet each other or be able to get near and find out.

He has told you he has cancer maybe as a good way to end your online friendship when he finds suitable. People will come up with things like this to have a good excuse as to why they will never be speaking again.

[Ben Michael]

I'm sorry it's fake

[Kaius]

Well to be honest what hes done is wrong, there could be an underlying perfectly rational reason for why he lied about his pictures/name, however that does not make it right. As much as you should ask for other peoples opinions on it you should be the one to make the decision of whether its real or not. Lying about those sort of things could mean something serious or it could be something he did in the heat of the moment and couldn't get out of, but again that doesn't make it right. Lying about cancer as well is especially something you need to be careful of and I think the only way around it if you're serious about being with him is asking for proof. I've been in a similar situation before so I'm quite equal minded, if you need to talk about it feel free to pm me I'll be happy to help.

[Kujiro]

Like what everyone is saying, im sorry, but you are living in an illusion.
You know nothing about him, and i suppose he has a hidden agenda, money? or sexual in nature?
It makes it alot worst if its an online relationship and hes just trying to shrug you off using cancer as an excuse.

I would see that you are blinded by love, that you do not see things normally, and it would take someone from a vantage point of view to tell you whats really wrong.
Its time to wake up from that dream and move on with life, there is definately lots more that life has to offer.