what do i say.. when you know your best friend cheated on your other best friend?

[xktx]

right my two best mates are going out..... and Im not going to name them, but the girl cheated on the boy with her ex boyfriend. She made me promise i wouldnt tell, but her current boyfriend is also my best friend and its his first relationship...
what do i do? do i tell on her, but may lose her as a friend, but atleast then he would know. or do i keep it a secret and watch him fall deeper inlove as she plays with his heart....?
shes not usually like this, i think she just cant make up her mind :/ but i dont want to lose either of them, but i dont know what to do :/ x

what would you do?

[anonymous53]

Tell her she needs to tell him herself. Convince her it is not fair to him. (Which it isn't) Convince her to correct her wrongdoings by telling him now, before its too late. When he finds out in the future (I guarantee you he will, we're not that thick) she may lose him completely, even as a friend.

[xktx]

the thing is i know if she told him and said she wouldnt do it again, hed forgive her. but theyre meeting up this saturday to well 'get intimate' again. and i keep trying to convice her to tell him and she turns round to me and said, cant you force him to kiss you, then we'd be equal....... but i couldnt do that to my bf. she thinks its fine and completely normal..... :/ x

[Derek951]

I know it probably sounds mean, but I would tell the first friend (the girl that cheated) not to talk to you about it anymore. Otherwise you will have to make a choice between your friends, which you shouldn't have to do. I would just make it a forbidden subject, the less I know the better. But thats just me, I'm sure you'll get other really good advice here

[humanesquire]

If it is a very serious situation for you, I think you should tell her that if she doesn't tell him, you will.

[spires]

dont tell nothing and u dont know nothing

[xktx]

hmmm. thanks for the advice. x

[curiouse97]

I woldnt get in the middle of that

[unnamed94]

i dont really know how people can give that type of advice. its so wrong, at least in the way i see this. if she isnt willing to tell him, then you go up to him and tell him yourself. imagine that you were that guy and you found out your girlfriend cheated on you (they always find out) and one of your best friends knew and didnt tell you anything. i myself would feel betrayed by my girlfriend and my friend.

from what i can get of what you said, she doesnt know what being in a relationship is all about, specially because she asked you to kiss him even though she probably knows you have a bf and because she thinks what she did is fine.

if you are truly friends with both of them, you should be able to tell them directly when they make something wrong without any hard feelings from any of them and you shouldnt be keeping that kind of stuff from him. thats my advice, hope it helps.

[Tamia]

Well, tell her she has to tell him or you will. It will be for the best. I'm sure in the long run she will think you for this. :) Good luck

[letluvbleedred]

If it is a very serious situation for you, I think you should tell her that if she doesn't tell him, you will.

I agree. Me and my friends actually had this discussion. So if a situation accures to any of us and we know, we know who would want and would'nt want us to tell no matter what they say at the moment its happening.Honestly i would want to be told and told on, to save from emotional stress. :)