Pressure of telling siblings...

[NobodysCupOf Tea]

I just told my little brother everything.

I've kept it from him for so long cus I don't want to put ideas into his head. It sounds stupid, but he does look up to me and I dont EVER want him to consider cutting... Seeing as he already drinks and smokes even though he's 15...

So we were drunk. Very drunk, and I told him. He fainted. He collapsed in a heap when I showed him my wrist and I don't even cut badly...

He remembers everything I told him and now I feel guilty, I duno what to do. I feel like I've landed this huge pressure on him! I feel so bad and duno how to handle the situation!

Please help me

[Veto]

i told my cuz thay became sad about it but i think that if all possible its good for them to kow that you are human to and you make huge mistakes and that how much bad and conflict came frum cutting and ect ect

[xktx]

try telling him your sorry, you've made mistakes and you dont mean to hurt him. tell him together you can stop or something like that ... really try. then he might forgive you and help you too.x

[ImperfectMess]

Why not try sitting him down and thanking him for listening to you about something that is really affecting you. Then ask him is there anything he would like to tell you in order to return the favour or anything he would like to ask about your cutting. He might be worried about what to say to you and by showing that you're glad he knows and that you're open to talking to him about it he might feel more comfortable

[spires]

i think it was a good choice to tell him he had to find out sumtime and who knows it might help u

[RakshaMalayka]

Honestly, i know how this is. I finally told my siblings about my having had cut. I showd them old scars, and yes they did become sad over it. But it actually brought us closer, like the big secret was finally out of the way. They even helped me stop for awhile. I know they had alot of questions about it, and why i did it, so i just talked to them.

[Syvelocin]

In his situation, honestly, I feel like that could have done good. I know how that feels. I feel like my siblings may find out soon. My brother is getting older and it's only a matter of time until he asks. While I want to shelter them, at the same time, I don't want them to find out another way and therefore think it's cool because their adult sister does it...

But anyway. I think in addition to what others have said here, to just let him know that you told him not because you wanted to burden him, but because you love him and care for him enough to trust him with part of your life. I see the act of telling someone something like that as a show of trust, comfort, and love. I think if he understood that then he would appreciate that, as well as be able to cope with it better. In my experience, the people around me sometimes secretly punish themselves for it, feeling bad thinking that it's something they did/haven't done etc. I think just showing him that it wasn't a responsibility you gave him, but just confiding something important because he is special to you would help prevent those feelings.