LyLy17
July 29th, 2011, 11:31 PM
I'm a freshman in high school. I moved this year and my new school started a month back. One of the most popular guys there started showing interest in me. He's in most of my classes. He has dated really pretty girls in the past and let me tell you - I'm NOT pretty. Cute, maybe, but not pretty. He flirted with me all the time and asked me out a week back. I didn't give him an answer right then because I was really confused. Later we texted for a long time and he told me that he really liked me because he thinks I'm different from all his "pretty" friends. He really wanted me to be his girlfriend. And I'm 200% sure he wasn't kidding or anything. He was totally serious.
But I don't even get why he likes me : I'm not pretty; I'm not outgoing; I can be socially awkward at times. He's one of most popular people here; he has a million friends who are just as outgoing and social as he is. Most of his friends are also rich and spoiled, and not exactly the nicest people in the school. In other words, I really don't like his friends. My friends, on the other hand, are really nice and sweet. They're all pretty rich too, but they're in no way stuck-up or anything. My friends are not exactly in the "popular crowd".
Anyway, he asked me out again today and I told him that I'll tell him my answer tomorrow. Now, I have no idea what to do. I like him a lot, but I hardly know him. And he's really nice to me and I feel "secure" when I talk to him. But I logged into Facebook today and I saw some of his pictures from last year. He was with all his friends and when I looked at him, I didn't feel "secure" anymore. I felt like he was a stranger. Also, when I think about it, it's very hard to believe that he is actually friends with the people he is friends with and that he gets along with such people. I know I'd NEVER fit in with such people. I get this very insecure feeling when I think about him and his friends.
I have no idea what to do. I feel like crying. I am SO confused. It's a lot more complicated than it sounds here. What should I do? Should I give up my insecurities and say yes to him or should I stick with my nice group of friends and wait for a nice guy that makes me feel "secure"?
(By the way, it's not a "first date" he's talking about. He wants to be in a serious relationship. It's not too soon or anything, even though it might seem so. Trust me, I know the situation.)
But I don't even get why he likes me : I'm not pretty; I'm not outgoing; I can be socially awkward at times. He's one of most popular people here; he has a million friends who are just as outgoing and social as he is. Most of his friends are also rich and spoiled, and not exactly the nicest people in the school. In other words, I really don't like his friends. My friends, on the other hand, are really nice and sweet. They're all pretty rich too, but they're in no way stuck-up or anything. My friends are not exactly in the "popular crowd".
Anyway, he asked me out again today and I told him that I'll tell him my answer tomorrow. Now, I have no idea what to do. I like him a lot, but I hardly know him. And he's really nice to me and I feel "secure" when I talk to him. But I logged into Facebook today and I saw some of his pictures from last year. He was with all his friends and when I looked at him, I didn't feel "secure" anymore. I felt like he was a stranger. Also, when I think about it, it's very hard to believe that he is actually friends with the people he is friends with and that he gets along with such people. I know I'd NEVER fit in with such people. I get this very insecure feeling when I think about him and his friends.
I have no idea what to do. I feel like crying. I am SO confused. It's a lot more complicated than it sounds here. What should I do? Should I give up my insecurities and say yes to him or should I stick with my nice group of friends and wait for a nice guy that makes me feel "secure"?
(By the way, it's not a "first date" he's talking about. He wants to be in a serious relationship. It's not too soon or anything, even though it might seem so. Trust me, I know the situation.)