putting a spin on things.

[ExhibitG]

so normally people tend to post threads asking if their gay and stuff, but I've decided I don't want to know if I am yet. I have a sexual attraction toward guys but I've never had a crush on any guy before. right now it seems only sexual, no emotional. on the flip side, Id say my sexual attraction toward guys is stronger than with girls, but I still have both a sexual and emotional attraction to girls.

so id really like for people to just reply if you feel the same way or if you have any similar feelings or confusions to share. hopefully it can help anyone like me not feel so alone in situations like this.

[jhsjsams719]

i get mixed up between friendly emotional and deeply emotional...
i could get pretty emotional with a guy friend and also a gal friend.
but i don't know, maybe i just don't know the difference between a crush and sentimental attraction.
but yes, i'm pretty much in the same situation as you. and overall i think a lot of people are. your guy friends might be too, from even the most unexpected people. but of course, it is an uncomfortable subject to talk about.

[ExhibitG]

i get mixed up between friendly emotional and deeply emotional...
i could get pretty emotional with a guy friend and also a gal friend.
but i don't know, maybe i just don't know the difference between a crush and sentimental attraction.
but yes, i'm pretty much in the same situation as you. and overall i think a lot of people are. your guy friends might be too, from even the most unexpected people. but of course, it is an uncomfortable subject to talk about.

that's a great point about not knowing the difference between a crush and sentimental attraction, because I tend to get confused about the two with girls.

[Extreme586]

I'm sexually and emotionally attracted to a lot of guys, and except for a few girls I'm pretty much just emotionally attracted to them in general. I'm really trying hard to find a way to act normal around the guys I have feelings for, I don't just find them attractive but like their personalities and would like to become friends with them. I feel like these feelings really get in the way sometimes and I can hardly say two words to them because I suddenly get shy and don't know what to say. I'll find away to work around it though its just a matter of time.

[Kujiro]

It is a good start to not jump into conclusions, it takes some time to understand your own genome.
For me, sexuality is not a choice, but it does not recon one to jump into conclusions that they are either without knowing where do they stand.

Be it any gender, the difference between a crush and sentimental attraction, is the toughest emotional feeling to realise.
In general as we all know, crushes then to be stronger, but last for a much shorter period of time.

Its a good time to explore your own feelings, question yourself and find answers for them.
At the end of the day, whats important is not which gender you prefer, but its more important to be true to yourself.

Understand ourselves is a journey that takes us way past puberty, its something that should not be rushed, but should not be ignored or denied as well.

All the best
Cheers.

[flumeendeavors]

Oh for sure! I am sexually attracted more to guys but not to girls and emotionally attracted to girls and a little bit guys. It's nothing to be ashamed about. You're figuring yourself out and having fun doing it. Just be safe!

[SosbanFach]

I'm the same as the OP