This guy.

[schrei jess]

Okay there is a guy in one of my classes. He is a very nice guy, very funny, I like being around him. Now, Im almost 100% sure he has a crush on me but maybe not, you tell me what you think.

Okay, he's always asking if I like him, so I say yes - and I mean as a friend, maybe he takes it another way. He's asked me for my phone number, and I pretended I didnt hear him, it's not that I dont want to talk to him, I just hate using the phone. And today, he just randomly was like "Can I walk you to your home room?" which is odd, because his homeroom is out in the trailors, and mine is on the second story, the complete opposite direction of his so he was going way out of his way, I just let him because he really wanted to and I didnt want to be a bitch. He hugs me a lot and puts his arm around me, which I dont mind that much, even though I dont like being touched but again, I dont want to be a bitch.

Okay so yeah, Im pretty sure he likes me. What I need to know is that if he asks me out or tells me he likes me, what do I do? How do I let him down gently and explain that I just want to be friends? I definetly dont want to hurt him and I dont want him to stop talking to me or be embarrassed about it. Thing is, he is kind of like me, emotionally unstable I guess, he punches himself and punches concrete walls - says he likes the pain, and he didnt make fun of me or tell anyone when he saw my burns and scars. So I want him to feel like he can still be my friend and talk to me if he needs help or whatever.

I definetly dont have much experience with dating or guys, Ive never really been interested in all of that, I had one long term boyfriend, and I went out with another guy for pity - that sounds terrible but he really liked me. And I dont want to do that to this guy, his name is Ben. Please tell me you guys can help me, I have no idea how to handle this!

[Hyper]

Just tell him what you feel, as best as you can, even if someone jumps in here and writes out the perfect answer for you, you won't realy remember it and you'd problably be a bit too afraid to say it out..

You do like him in some way so just wait, if he does asks you out just tell him what you feel as best as you can

[ScotsGirl]

Hmm...I know you said "you've never really been interested in all of that" but...i dont think you mentioned why you actually dont you want to be with him?
Or did i miss something? lol!

I think that if youre good friends with him and you want to stay good friends with him, then you really need to be honest with him.
Theres a possibility that, if he does ask you out and you reject him, he may feel upset/angry, but its understandable. Its usually only a temporary thing as it can be difficult to accept rejection.
Just keep being his friend :)
Its no ones fault, especially not yours, if he has feelings for you and you dont feel the same.
But for now, dont worry about it. Id suggest carry on what youre doing, making sure you dont do anything specific to make him think your into him. But dont be scared of carrying on doing what good friends do with/for/to each other.

I hope everything works out alright :)

xxxx

[schrei jess]

Thanks for the advice guys, I just wanted to be prepared if he did ask me out or something like that, he has just been acting odd like that.

It's not really him specifically. I dont know why Im not interested in dating atm. Actually, I rather like this girl in my class a lot - have a bit of a crush on her, Im just confused right now about a lot, and Im not sure about my preference and all that. If he did ask me out, it was just confuse me a lot and I dont want anything to happen, Id rather keep things the way they are. Ill admit that Im scared to be with someone, I dont want to feel like Im devoted to someone, Id view it as like a responsibility more than something I want to do. Does any of that make any sense? Really, I just have a lot going on and I dont think I would be able to handle going out with someone at the same time as all the other issues.

[ScotsGirl]

Yeah of course that makes sense :)
But theres nothing to be scared of...well, actually thats a huge lie coming from ms. commitment-phobe herself :redface: LOL :P ...but being in a relationship, you give, as well as recieve. If a relationship feels like a responsibility then its not what it should be, and it needs to be re-evaluated.
Anyway, about the topic...i definately think you should just be honest with him then if he does ask.
I hope it goes well if it happens :)
And goodluck with that girl ;)

xxx

[schrei jess]

Found out he has told one of my friends that he does like me, so now Im sure. Now Im really worrying about what to do when the time comes.

[Hyper]

If he realy likes you I think hel be happy to remain your friend, and who knows what might happen :P