talking to people

[green]

i cant talk to people. I dont open up. I have "friends" but they dont seem to want me around anymore. I get harassed sometimes at school. I wake up every morning and see a fat, un attractive and weak guy, which makes me feel bad so i end up eating more. The real problem is I dont feel comfortable talking to my mum and I dont want to talk to my dad about it because my dad is the only person in my family who doesnt see my problems and who I can really relate to. Whenever I start to talk about it I break down and my mum suggests i go see a councilor. I cant do it. I want to leave my school, I want to leave this city, I hate it here. I miss having somewhere that we all would go and hike as a family. I dont know I just cant stop myself from crying when i think about it.

[DerBear]

Your just low on slef confidence.

Maybe you friends dont hang out with you because you never suggest anything i.e going to the park or to do something. So they think you are not intrested.

You should talk to them as they are still your friends.

As for you wanting to move think! You will not know anyone. 2) you want have any friends 3) You probably will still get bothered due to you being the knew kid.

Also eating to fill a "hole" does not work---> health problem

As I said before your just low on self confidence you should be more out there with yourself and just tell the people who annoy you to piss off

Try talk to a counciler or someone you dont know---That helps

Also can i suggest you use the VT chatroom as if you do you can talk to people with simallar problems. Side note please if you do go on the chatroom please use a name and not just sign in as a guest1666...some people dont like it and some ignore guests.

[Kujiro]

I see and feel your lonelyness, but lets all look at it rationally,
It is not really going to help if you leave the city, or school.

The only way to rectify the problem would be to boost up your own level of self confidence,
There are many hiccups and trips in life we have to face it ourselves, and we have to grow up facing them.

I am sorry for being alittle harsh, but running away from problems is not the solution.
Everyone has problems, but if you are going to keep them to yourself, and not speak to a councillor, then no one will beable to help you.

Ultimately you have to walk out of that bedroom on your own and face the world.
We all have to understand friends come and go, but the true ones will leave footprints in our hearts.

You mentioned eating more to reduce your stress, but im sure you know the results of over eating as well.
"Look up on eating disorders" for help on this matter.

You have to motivate yourself to improve and become better, make new friends.

"It's easy to be confident when you have control in what you do. It's very, very difficult to keep that confidence when you gotta take whatever strange bounces life throws your way.
Don't be careless but don't be too careful either. You cannot be afraid to lose.
That's how you gain the confidence to attack when things are not going in your flow. That's how you attack life, even when you don't think you have any control."

I hope you understand what i meant,
All the best, be happy.
Cheers

[rockandtumble]

I get it, completley.
And I dont wanna discourage you or anything by this, but I have opened up to my "friends". Numerous tiimes, and it didnt help at all. They had little to no reaction to what I was confessing to them, even after bottling it up for over a year. And then I felt more stupid for opening up. And then I get drunk and do it again.

But thats just me, and my friends, who in all honesty aren't so much friends anymore.
I hope you find friends/family you can confide in and everything wrks out.