Horrible Family...

[judgeofsin]

My friend has a horrible family. Just downright awful. Let me start with her father. He has been continously raping her ever since she was a child, and he took her virginity. Her mother. She knows perfectly well that her husband has been raping her daughter, and yet she refuses to get a divorce and leave him. She told her that she was going to get her away from her father. That was 1 month ago. Her brother. He won't try and get his father to stop abusing her. Please... I need support. I need to find a way to save her :(
(Before you ask, I don't live near her. I'm in florida, and she's in germany.)

[Njathind]

:eek: wow. What is happening to her is down right wrong. You need to convince her that she needs to phone the police, or maybe tell her school councilor. This can not go on, it sounds like she has suffered enough. The sooner she tells someone in authority the better.

She might take a bit of persuading at first, after all, as soon as she tells someone, her life is gonan change big time. Some for better, some for worse. But the bottom line is, this needs to stop NOW!

[judgeofsin]

She has already talked to the police. Her parents forced her to tell them that everything was perfectly fine. Also, she is home schooled. I'm trying to persuade her. I just need help... she doesn't even want anyone to help her.

[THE GR8 MIKE]

If I were you I'd go out there and beat the shit out of them accept the girl (of course) and get some sort of law enforcement that actually does something in this fucked up world and get her the hell out of there. She needs a new family with people that actually care about her.

[WonderTastic]

I have 3 sisters if any man tries to hurt my sister I would go crazy

[Upintheair]

first off, she hasnt lost her virginity to her father. rape is not sex and losing your virginity is a choice (make sure she knows that) You should talk to your parents and see if they can try to help. But you need to be very supportive of her and be there for her

[DerBear]

I have 3 sisters if any man tries to hurt my sister I would go crazy

[Edited out, not relavent. ~georgiamay]

Ok now for the first post...The way i see it is unless you can go to germany or she can send you proof of her being raped you cant call the cops. You can to save her yourself physiclly...So that leaves you just giving her support...I know it does not sound like much but it does help being there for someone so just show her your support

[judgeofsin]

first off, she hasnt lost her virginity to her father. rape is not sex and losing your virginity is a choice (make sure she knows that) You should talk to your parents and see if they can try to help. But you need to be very supportive of her and be there for her

She hasn't? I thought that once the barrier was broken that was it. I'm always supportive of her and I'm there for her.

[MonsterBear]

I totally know what shes going through but for so long?!?!
i think i wouldve killed myself by than.
Im glad your there to support her. I really think she should go to the police again.
It just isnt right for her to do nothing about it.

[judahtics]

i don't know how things in Germany work, but I would suggest getting her resources and e-mailing them to her. give her links and such on how she get help.

[judgeofsin]

i don't know how things in Germany work, but I would suggest getting her resources and e-mailing them to her. give her links and such on how she get help.

I gave her a whole website full of numbers to call and things of that nature.

[judgeofsin]

I totally know what shes going through but for so long?!?!
i think i wouldve killed myself by than.
Im glad your there to support her. I really think she should go to the police again.
It just isnt right for her to do nothing about it.

She's a strong willed girl. Mostly because of me actually O///O
She's going to build up the courage to speak with them again soon.

[Comatose]

first off, she hasnt lost her virginity to her father. rape is not sex and losing your virginity is a choice (make sure she knows that) You should talk to your parents and see if they can try to help. But you need to be very supportive of her and be there for her

Rape is not sex? Wtf? So, if a guy forcefully shoves his 10" dick in my mouth and makes me blow him AT TEN YEARS OLD, I haven't given him a blow job? Because I gave in and did it, it wasn't sexual assault? Ugh. When I lost my virginity, I was smashed. Absolutely wasted. Is that also to say that I did not lose my virginity to him because I was so drunk I barely felt it?

Moving along though! It would be best if your friend went to a psychologist/psychiatrist, perhaps even the hospital. If he has raped her recently and she has not showered, they can swab her and see if his semen/DNA etc is inside or on her.

Don't let her give up hope either, it can take quite a long time for people to believe you and to stop lying for your family/other people involved. It took me years, but I am glad I kept persisting - even after giving up hope.

[judahtics]

even rape takes your virginity whether you want to admit it or not. if you have a penis in your vagina, it's sex. once you've had sex, you aren't a virgin. however, it's a terrible and sad way to lose it.

[Dylan79831]

Break her out of her house and take her to the police