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[nicolas1]

so i swam naked with a friend the other day, just for fun. He's gay, I'm not, or at least i think i'm not. Because after the swimming we sat by the pool and talked, still naked. And he got a boner. He asked me question like if i am curious to be with an other guy 'n stuff, and i got turned on and got a boner too. Does this mean i'm gay? Or is this normal?

[burner10]

That depends. If hes a close friend maybe you just feel attracted to him. But I don't think your gay, getting a boner is just one of these things. He'll I've been in a similar situation with a guy but I've got a girlfriend. So I wouldn't worry but ( once again ) if you continually get turned on you might be bi. If he's gay talk to him and he could maybe help you.

Add me and pm me if you want more advice

[Kujiro]

Mutual attraction is very common amoung us, be it straight or gay, getting a boner does not mean you are gay, even if things were done after which, does not mean you are gay either.
You could be horny and curious at the same time.
Curiousity of the same gender is a very common thing now.
Homosexuality occurs when there is the emotional factor involved as well.

[Thanatos]

Mutual attraction is very common amoung us, be it straight or gay, getting a boner does not mean you are gay, even if things were done after which, does not mean you are gay either.
You could be horny and curious at the same time.
Curiousity of the same gender is a very common thing now.
Homosexuality occurs when there is the emotional factor involved as well.

What he said.

[MustangRacer35]

Getting turned on by another guy and doing stuff doesn't mean you're gay. You may be a little curious but that's up to you if you want to do more. It's pretty normal so don't worry.

[AltoVaughn]

Don't assume your gay or bisexual because of that. When you Love a guy you can start thinking that.

Love By definition - A profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.

You can get an erection for no reason at all. Don't assume it means something.

[TtotheC]

Love By definition - A profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.


That definition has multiple appliable ways though if you ask me. I mean, i LOVE my best friend, but it's not the type of love where i wanna sit with him at candlelight dinner and kiss, more the type of love where i really like having him around and could give him a friendly hug and say I LOVE YOU MANGGG!! lol ;)

[Kujiro]

That definition has multiple appliable ways though if you ask me. I mean, i LOVE my best friend, but it's not the type of love where i wanna sit with him at candlelight dinner and kiss, more the type of love where i really like having him around and could give him a friendly hug and say I LOVE YOU MANGGG!! lol ;)

Love can broken in 3 forms of love.
1.Eros love
2.Philos love
3.Agape love

Eros Love
Eros love as we all should know is erotic love.
This love is based more on physical traits. Say a person says he has "fallen in love" for a woman, or a woman "falls in love" for a guy because he is intelligent, has good breeding, etc.
The weakness with this type of love is obvious. It is based more on "self-benefit", of what can benefit you rather than the other person. This is "I love you because it feels good, and makes ME happy loving you." See? The keyword is the word "ME".

Philos love
A love based on friendship between 2 people,
It is true that two lovers that start out by being friends first before becoming partners usually are the relationships that last more, long-term.

Friendship is the foundation of a successful relationship. This is true whether it is marriage, or boyfriend-girlfriend, relationship betweeen family members, relationship with co-workers, employer, etc.

In the case of a man-woman romantic relationship, the advantage is you get to know each other first, before committing to a more serious relationship above friendship.

Agape Love
Agape is also known as unconditional love
Agape love is above philos love and eros love. It is a love that is totally selfless, where a person gives out love to another person even if this act does not benefit her/him in any way. Whether the love given is returned or not, the person continues to love (even without any self-benefit).


Regardless, everyone will have their own perspective of love.
*Winks*

[TtotheC]

haha, you really do your homework dont u mate? U never cease to amaze me :P

So i guess the love i described is Philos love eh?

[nicolas1]

okay thanks, i was really freakin out. I mean i've seen some of my friends naked but i never got one then... Maybe it was just because he got turned on by seeing me naked. i guess i'm just curious. But where do you guys think is the line between curious and gay...?

[Kujiro]

TtoTheC... aweeee dont make me go red all over.

okay thanks, i was really freakin out. I mean i've seen some of my friends naked but i never got one then... Maybe it was just because he got turned on by seeing me naked. i guess i'm just curious. But where do you guys think is the line between curious and gay...?

There is no distinctive line between curious and homosexual, the all fall in the grey area, but in homosexuality, there is more prominent love for the partner, and by the love defination i would look inbetween philos and agape love.
It transcends way above eros love. It would be to a level where a couple is respectful, and concerned for each other, rather than just sexual needs.

[nicolas1]

so having sexual thoughts about guys doesn't mean that you're gay? I gotta admit that sometimes i do think about doing stuff with guys... Like when I was with him, after getting a boner, I kinda wished it would go a little further than that...

[MustangRacer35]

Having sexual thoughts doesn't make you gay. Even if you experiment that doesn't make you gay. You're only gay or bi if you have both a physical and emotional attraction to another guy.

[nicolas1]

Well, i hung out with the same friend, and we got naked again. We talked and he started to kiss me. So i guess i am gay or at least bi, because after that we gave each other a hj, bj and had sex and i really liked it...

[ExhibitG]

Well, i hung out with the same friend, and we got naked again. We talked and he started to kiss me. So i guess i am gay or at least bi, because after that we gave each other a hj, bj and had sex and i really liked it...

i think that maybe having sex is pushing it a bit and therefore you might be bi, but again it could have just been experimentation. although a lot of people say it's experimentation, when really there is much more going on. you'll have to make that call yourself.