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LittlePaperStars
July 27th, 2011, 02:47 PM
I started cutting myself about a month ago. Nothing was going right in my life. My soccer coach was really harsh and pressuring, my daily arguments with my mom were getting out of hand, and whatever I said was a big deal. I started noticing how my mom was expecting way too much out of me. I couldn't handle the pressure. Since I'm also a bisexual, my biggest worry was mom disowning me. I got really upset and depressed, and I suddenly didn't feel like doing anything at all. I just wanted to stay enclosed in my room. (At the time, I was thinking hard about what death would be like)

Since summer vacation, and everyone of my friends were gone, I had no one to talk to about this. One day, I got really sad and asked my mom if she'd still love me if I cut. She just said, "My daughter would never cut." A day later, I was in the car waiting for her, and I found a razor. Clean and unused. I stashed it in my purse, and she never notcied it was gone.

I was scared the first time I did it. But I didn't cut my wrist or anything. I cut my fingers; just the tips. Then I moved on to my thumb. I made 3 everyday for a week, and now I can't even count them anymore. When anyone asks me about it, I say my cat did it. (Because she still has nails and bites pretty hard.) But now, I'm used to it, and it doesn't bother me.

The people I've been confiding in have been telling me it's bad. I know it is, but it's also helping me cope with all the situations and bad feelings.

I haven't cut for a few days...maybe five. But it's because mom doesn't like it when I close my bedroom door, and if I go in the bath room and stay too long, she'll get suspicious. I've been trying really hard to keep my mind off of cutting, but no matter how hard I try, the thought is always at the back of my mind.

My best friend is back from vacation and she emailed me that she's read my blog. One of my posts really got to her, and made her really sad for me. The post included a suicide note that I would write out for my parents if they found me unconsious on the floor one day.
So far, she only knows that 'm really depressed and sad. But I plan on telling her and showing her my cuts when we hang out this Friday. I really hope to talk to her alone about this...

So this is my long rant/story. I'm sorry if this is messy; I'm really unorganized.
Oh yeah, my name is Robin, and I'm new. :3

Hopegirl
July 27th, 2011, 03:11 PM
Hi im pretty new aswell :) Only joined a few weeks ago, i dunno what i can do to help you, but if you need help just to talk to someone, alternatives to cutting or just someone to listen to your problems then im happy to talk :) Ive been through this, my self-hrm is getting better...i have problems with my friends ect so i find posting stuff about my problems a help as everyone on here does know what your going through with the whole self-harm :) feel free to private messge me x

LittlePaperStars
July 27th, 2011, 03:21 PM
Hi im pretty new aswell :) Only joined a few weeks ago, i dunno what i can do to help you, but if you need help just to talk to someone, alternatives to cutting or just someone to listen to your problems then im happy to talk :) Ive been through this, my self-hrm is getting better...i have problems with my friends ect so i find posting stuff about my problems a help as everyone on here does know what your going through with the whole self-harm :) feel free to private messge me x

Thank you :) I will message you if I need someone to talk to. I'm happy some people understand what I'm going through. :)

xDarkAngelx
July 27th, 2011, 03:55 PM
Well firstly, welcome to the site. I know how mught be feeling as i'm roughly going through the same thing. My self harming as gotten worse and I often wonder what suicide would be like. Anyway if you need someone else to talk i'm always here:)

xktx
July 27th, 2011, 05:35 PM
I started cutting about three weeks ago. I told my boyfriend and my two best friends, its awkward and annoying to start off with cos they find it difficult to understand, but they accept you for who you are, and after the initial questions help as much as they can. Though I haven't told my mum, I dont know how she'd react and anyway... she has enough on her plate. A friend to confide in is a good step.

XxMurderedKissesxX
July 28th, 2011, 03:36 PM
Firstly,I get how hard it can be,bc Im bisexual too,and when I first told people I was rlly depressed and scared they would think differently of me.(It gets better) Secondly,I know what its like when it feels like someone wants the world and more from u. It sux. I moved back to where I used to live,so I had non of my close friends to talk to about what was bothering me. And it made my Self harm alot worse. But im telling u,the longer u cut,the harder it will be to stop,and after time,they will get deeper,longer,more and more dangerous. What if u try going to a counselor? It could help get out the negative emotions. If u feel the urge to cut,writing,painting,blasting music,going for a walk,snapping an elastic band on ur wrist or squeezing icecubes can help. Have u tried talking to ur mom about how shes making u feel? It might help,and if by some chance it doesnt,atleast u can say u where honest and open about it. When u feel like everythings falling apart,do something to make ur mood alittle better. Going to the mall,getting ur hair/nails done,renting a movie,snacking on ur fav food,wearing ur fav outfit. Little things,sometimes have the biggest impact. Oh and btw,welcome to VT : )

LittlePaperStars
July 30th, 2011, 07:32 PM
Firstly,I get how hard it can be,bc Im bisexual too,and when I first told people I was rlly depressed and scared they would think differently of me.(It gets better) Secondly,I know what its like when it feels like someone wants the world and more from u. It sux. I moved back to where I used to live,so I had non of my close friends to talk to about what was bothering me. And it made my Self harm alot worse. But im telling u,the longer u cut,the harder it will be to stop,and after time,they will get deeper,longer,more and more dangerous. What if u try going to a counselor? It could help get out the negative emotions. If u feel the urge to cut,writing,painting,blasting music,going for a walk,snapping an elastic band on ur wrist or squeezing icecubes can help. Have u tried talking to ur mom about how shes making u feel? It might help,and if by some chance it doesnt,atleast u can say u where honest and open about it. When u feel like everythings falling apart,do something to make ur mood alittle better. Going to the mall,getting ur hair/nails done,renting a movie,snacking on ur fav food,wearing ur fav outfit. Little things,sometimes have the biggest impact. Oh and btw,welcome to VT : )

Thanks alot for the advice. The self harm has been going on for a month and a bit, and yesterday I confided in my best friend. It turns out, she's been doing it too, because of family issues. We both want to help each other out. There was lots of crying involved when we told each other. I'm happy to have her around.
I try to do things to get it off my mind, but it's always there in the back of my brain, you know? :/
Talking to my mom always turns into a fight, and counselor's aren't that reliable where i live because since it's life threatening, they'd have to tell my mom...
I'll stick with my bestie :)

xktx
July 31st, 2011, 09:34 AM
yeah my best mate cuts too, me and her help each other, in a way its better cos they understand you, and what your going through, and you can help distract each other... which makes you closer friends :)

LittlePaperStars
August 1st, 2011, 09:19 AM
yeah my best mate cuts too, me and her help each other, in a way its better cos they understand you, and what your going through, and you can help distract each other... which makes you closer friends :)

Exactly! :) We like, put each other on a pedestal when no one else does, you know? I'm really glad she told me, even if it was after she did it, but I'm still there to listen to her and everything. <3