So many questions

[ineedmentalhelp]

Right, I'll give you some background about my situation. I recently went on holiday with my school and met a girl (I'm 16 and she's nearly 15). I spent a hell of alot of time with her and we really enjoyed ourselves. We were sitting down and talking and then we just spontaneously held hands. I thought it would be just for the holiday, but she seems happy to take it back home (we live 5 miles apart). However this is my first potential relationship and I don't really know what to do. Here is some (many) questions I would be grateful for answers to:

1) Is the age gap a problem? We both feel comfortable, but there seems to be some kind of stigma attached as I am of age yet she is under.

2) She invited me to see a film earlier and I really enjoyed myself, but how would I go about a first kiss? (16 and never been kissed ffs :l)

3) Is this destined to fail? She seems happy to continue as demonstrated by the film 'date'

4) Any ideas for dates?

5) Any other advice for someone who is starting dating far too late and how not to mess it up?

Thank you very much for any replies and any help is appreciated :)

dan xxx

[Njathind]

1) Is the age gap a problem? We both feel comfortable, but there seems to be some kind of stigma attached as I am of age yet she is under.
In my personal oppinion I dont see the age gap being a problem, after all its only a year.

2) She invited me to see a film earlier and I really enjoyed myself, but how would I go about a first kiss? (16 and never been kissed ffs :l)
I'm not really too sure on this as, I'm afraid to say I have never kissed. But I would just test the water see how she reacts; maybe hold her hand, then maybe move onto putting your arm round her, then start getting closer to her, maybe pull her in so her head is on your shoulder, then just start looking at her, hopefully she will look back and then just move in.

3) Is this destined to fail? She seems happy to continue as demonstrated by the film 'date' Its hard to tell wether your relationship will fail, it really depends what you both put into it, at the end of the day its down to the two of yo uto make it work.

4) Any ideas for dates? Maybe go out for dinner? NOT MC Donalads, maybe a nice restaurant if you have the money, if not maybe go see a film, have her over to watch a DVD, go for a walk somewhere nice. You get the idea

5) Any other advice for someone who is starting dating far too late and how not to mess it up? Erm you think your starting too late, I'm 18 and have never been in a proper relationship, lets say dating isn't exactly my forté. Just take your time, dont rush things, but dont take things too slowly.

I hope this helps, and good luck with this girl. :)

[Emily_LOVES_MUSIC]

1) Is the age gap a problem? We both feel comfortable, but there seems to be some kind of stigma attached as I am of age yet she is under.

no!!! when i was 10 i dated a guy that was 17. if you had a connection, then there is no problem what so evr

2) She invited me to see a film earlier and I really enjoyed myself, but how would I go about a first kiss? (16 and never been kissed ffs :l)

slowly lean in and if she leans in too, then she wants to kiss you as well. if you are too nervous to make the first move, then try staring at her lips, then her eyes, then back to her lips, then back to her eyes. she will immediantly start to wonder if you want to kiss her. if she looks paniced, then lean in to hug her. if not and looks excited, then obviously kiss her. it alwasy works.

3) Is this destined to fail? She seems happy to continue as demonstrated by the film 'date'

like i said, i had a boyfriend that was 7 years older than i was when i was 10. more examples are: my parents are 8 years apart, my cousin michelle and her husband marko are 11 years apart. age is but a number. a true test of REAL age is how mature you are. if you are willing to make it work, then NOTHING is destined to fail, unless you let it happen. (like let her slip through your fingers)

4) Any ideas for dates?

it depends on her intrests. if she likes the beach, (i know this sounds corny but...) take her on a beach picnic to watch the snset {perfect chance to hold her really close if it gets cold outside ;)}
if she loves music with a burning passion, and there is a relitivly local un-known band that has music that the two of you are interested in, take her to one of their gigs that are really close. it gives you a chance to get close to her (like really close)if there are alot of people there.

5) Any other advice for someone who is starting dating far too late and how not to mess it up?

just relax. its not as scary as it might seem. ive had my fair share of relationships. if you have things in common, then there should be nothing to worry about. a true test of compatablility is if you never run out of this to talk about. if you never do, then you two are good for eachother. trust me, there is nothing to worry about.


tell her she is lucky to have a guy that cares enough to ask for advice on not how to mess up a relationship. lol (thats a VERY good thing). good luck and i hope this helped.