When do you know you're in love with the same sex?

[TtotheC]

So i was just wondering, when exactly do you know you've got a crush on the same sex?

I mean i've got lots of friends, and i love meeting new people of the same sex and i could really have a great time with them. For example some dude of my brothers' friendsgroup came over a couple of days ago (he was gay btw) and we had similar interests, and it was just really awesome talking to him plus i thought he was pretty handsome. I even had a dream about him the same night (nothing intense, just a dream and he was there).

At what point could you say that you're in love with the same sex? I always had strong friendly relations with the same sex like this, is it more than just friendship if you just enjoy seeing them a lot and feel good whenever you do?

[humanesquire]

Love for anyone of any gender is when you would sacrifice everything just for their well being... This just sounds like a small crush

[IanMilo]

If you are even remotely gay or bi you need two things: Physical attachment and emotional attachment. One or the other is just curious or natural, but both is when you start to question things.

[nameless12]

you love someone when you like being with that someone all the time, or when you like how that person makes you feel.

in my opinion the best way to know if you love someone is that, if you can imagine yourself with that person in a romantic and really loving way and like it, then you love that person :).... atleast thats what i think XD
but still, maybe you have a liiiiittle crush on this guy

[TtotheC]

If you are even remotely gay or bi you need two things: Physical attachment and emotional attachment. One or the other is just curious or natural, but both is when you start to question things.

I think i just become really good friends with males. It is in some way an emotional attachment i guess? But its not like i want to be around them 24/7, or that i want to cuddle up against them or kiss them. Then again i do enjoy gay porn, does that mean i'm both physically and emotionally?....

It's weird!

[nameless12]

well, its ok not wanting to be with the guy 24/7, i mean we all need our own time.
and i think you might be a little with both physically and emotionally, but about the cuddle and kissing... you dont need to want to do those things :)

[IanMilo]

I think i just become really good friends with males. It is in some way an emotional attachment i guess? But its not like i want to be around them 24/7, or that i want to cuddle up against them or kiss them. Then again i do enjoy gay porn, does that mean i'm both physically and emotionally?....

It's weird!

Porn really isn't a good tell on whether you have a physical attraction. A lot of straight guys will watch gay porn, so there's no definite answer. The only way you can really know is when you decide for yourself. Whether that's through experimenting or just really thinking about it. Try to imagine yourself with a guy living happily. If you can't really see it you may just be curious, which is totally normal. The best thing you can do is keep an open mind and be willing to be true to yourself.

[prob1996]

I think it's a combination of when the emotional attachement becomes as powerful as the physical connection. Many guys are curious and experiment with the same sex. Most of them never fall in love with them and some guys have deep emotional connection to ther guys (like loving them like a brother) and would never do anything sexual with them. It's just when u get the right combination, then bam! My best friend became my boyfriend. It started out as us just epxerimenting when we were younger and the more we fooled around, the more we both realized that we didn't want to be with anyone else. Just the right combo for us. It may or may not be the same with u and ur friend. Depends on your feelings. Either way is ok just be true to yourself and open to all possibilities.

[Donkey]

I think love is something where when you think you're in love, you're probably not - you tend to know. It's a very simple and strong attachment to one individual that is impossible to escape. And love with the same-sex is the same as with the opposite sex.

[Shenron]

Well, there is love, and then there is love. I have 3 very close friends that I love, like really love, I'd do anything for them, and they'd do the same for me, but I don't want a romantic relationship with them. I am very much emotionally attached to them, however there is no physical attachment. I believe the real question you are asking is "how do you know when you love someone of the same sex romantically?" The answer to that lies in a few replies above. Both physical AND emotional attachment are needed. If you could see yourself spending the rest of your like with someone of the same sex, then you love then like that.

[Kujiro]

Firstly love is something which cannot be defined simply by just words,
Its something that takes multiple forms, but yet its so volatile that, there are times when its here, we dont know, but when its gone, we then realise that it was here.

Some would say that its extremely eazy to fall in love, while others say its so hard to find someone to love.

Back to your question, i believe that love has no gender boundaries, and has no limitations, it comes in all directions and possibily from anyone.
Love is how you intend to define it, and everyone has their own perspective of it.
There is no right or wrong answer.
But from the way you have placed it, i feel that you are more of infatuated with him rather than falling in love with him.
And normally infatuation dont really last very long, 2 weeks perhaps?

It could be well because of his sexuality, which turned some buzzers on for you, as you have mentioned in your previous thread, you have a girlfriend, but likely in the curious state.

Take this as an opportunity to understand yourself better, it may give you some answers you have been asking yourself over this period of time.

Open your heart and minds to the unknown and answers will come to you naturally.
Good luck in this soul searching journey,

If you find yourself in a fix and need someone to talk to. Drop me a pm :)

Cheers
*smile*

[jrl719]

Well to clear something up for you, you don't know your gay when you wake up one day, sweetie.

Anyways, you could possibly determine that you are interested in the same sex by this:
If you are straight, then you've had feelings for a female. Takes those feelings and put them up with a male, and see how the feelings compare.

That or sit I out and let your hormones help you decide... That's what I did.