Trouble :@

[SickTiger]

Hello everyone, for the past 3 months I have been having doubts over my sexuality, before this I had always liked girls and I think I still do, its just these thoughts are awful and are always on my mind, I do not want to be gay or even bi, just heterosexual. Not only have I berm having sexuality doubts but also emotional doubts whether I will be in relationships and stuff with girls. I think I will its these thoughts that destroy my teenage life. I used to masturbate to a guy I knew but stopped cos I felt so bad after, I still have thoughts over girls and still get erections but i.darent have a thought over a guy because I dont wantanymore doubts and thoughts. I still check out girls but never a guy. Please help I am in hell!

[TtotheC]

You're going through the same thing i'm going through man.

It's important to realize that you used to never worry a bit! keep that in mind as what you prefer from childhood will probably continue into adulthood. If you are primarily heterosexual then that's probably what you will be. Now wether or not you masturbate to gay porn or to your friend is your own choice! I personally choose not to do it, cus yeah i feel bad after i do it as well. If you dont want to be gay, and perform something which is in your eyes "gay", you will worry! This is all psychological :).

Keep in mind that fantasy is nothing compared to the real thing. May i ask how old you are?? You may just be going through a blast of hormones. Really, sexual fantasies say nothing about your sexuality. You could masturbate over a dog, get really excited and cum to it, doesnt mean you're a doggosexual or that you wanna do it in real life! ;)

But most important of all, none of us here can tell you what sexuality you are. Just keep in mind that whatever it is, it's OKAY! Try to not ask other people what they think you are, because only YOU know! Don't stress, i'm sure you still like girls and want to have a relationship with them, instead of guys. Keep strong buddy!:)

Hope i helped a bit!

[Mynameisconner]

You're beating yourself and it could be premature! You have plenty of time to figure things out, and you are in control of your body and everything you do. If it bothers you, that's an indication that it's not something you want to do. Guide yourself through what's comfortable to you; don't be in a hurry to label yourself and figure everything out. It's a process. You might be at a hard stage, but that's what advice from people who are experiencing it or have already endured it can be utilized. Hope this helps! No need for you to be in "hell!"

[Unlucky_Leprechaun]

Gay is both physical and emotional connections.. as well as straight. Just relax and you will figure it out. Do not do something that you don;t want to do or be talking into it. Just do (experiment if you want to) and you will ultimately figure it out

[Kujiro]

If i were you, its nothing to worry about,
You are now in the phase of whereby you are curious about anything, with the surging hormones and frequent erections.
Its common for the mind to run wild and venture into many aspects and possibilities.

Give yourself some time to understand you self better, before coming to a conclusion.
In my opinion, sexuality is never a choice.
If it is not turning into the direction you wish to go, the first thing you will have to learn is to accept and live it to the fullest, rather then to live in denial, then you would be facing a larger problem.

In regards to your emotional doubts, everyone is going through it, its generally the hardest thing to manage, its not like a spoilt water dispenser whereby it can be fixed manually, emotional doubts are matters of the heart, and can only be fixed by the heart.

Such thoughts will not destroy your teenage life either, they are infact a part of it, live it and get past it. Im sure you will grow to be a stronger person.

Compared to me, you have alot less to worry about. read my blog entry on viva nostalgia, if you are interested to know why.
nonetheless all the best, and i too hope you will find the right direction.
The choice is yours so is the responsibility.

Lots of luck
Cheers

[Schizothemia]

Give yourself time to discover who you are. Don't worry about labeling your self one thing or another because in the end it doesn't really accomplish much. Give yourself the chance to explore and enjoy the ability to do so!

Don't put any emphasis on trying to label yourself because you might not understand enough about yourself to provide an accurate label. Perhaps you're just curious, that's natural. With all of the hormones surging through your body during puberty (which in males can continue into the ages of 20-21) it's hard to fully understand what you might or might not really feel.

Lastly, I'll say something I say to a lot of people who are trying to deal with this issue. Learn to love who you love, don't worry about labeling it something or trying to give it this predetermined definition. Love is love, and comes in many forms and is so beautiful it shouldn't be labeled, it should be enjoyed. This applies to emotional love, and physical love which are two separate entities that come together when you meet the right person, but they can exist separately as well.

[SickTiger]

I am 15 but late going through puberty, I hope it is hormones I cant stop worrying!

[SickTiger]

[QUOTE=TtotheC;1363317]You're going through the same thing i'm going through man.

It's important to realize that you used to never worry a bit! keep that in mind as what you prefer from childhood will probably continue into adulthood. If you are primarily heterosexual then that's probably what you will be.

Are you sure TthotheC? I really hope so, it's a living nightmare

[SickTiger]

Well?:(