16 and up, please

[Carna]

So I really like by best friend, but she likes another guy. Whenever she is hurt, she comes to me for help and cries on me etc. I mean, I enjoy helping her, but I really wanna tell her how I feel instead of being stuck in the dreaded 'friend-zone'

I don't understand why girls always go to the guys that will hurt them, when I won't hurt her. ugh... any advice?

[Harlequin]

stay there, voice your opinions, i had sorta that same experiences with a couple of good friends. when i moved i told them and they just grinned and said they knew so. it was no big deal. care for her, i was told it was nice to have someone to cry, talk to that did not want to have sex. i loved them very much and during the time we knew each other we adopted each other. we are good friends even today worlds apart. be her friend, tell her. it wont hurt much if you really mean it.

[Carna]

stay there, voice your opinions, i had sorta that same experiences with a couple of good friends. when i moved i told them and they just grinned and said they knew so. it was no big deal. care for her, i was told it was nice to have someone to cry, talk to that did not want to have sex. i loved them very much and during the time we knew each other we adopted each other. we are good friends even today worlds apart. be her friend, tell her. it wont hurt much if you really mean it.

Im afraid of what she'll say though. We're practically brother and sister. I don't want it to ruin our friendship

[Harlequin]

Well they are my sisters, we love each other but have our own bfs/gfs. it does not matter. i told them even when they had partners that i loved them and will be there.

Like a real brother!

if your unrelated family then good on you! be honest and tell how you feel you will be both more relaxed towards each other honestly

[Carna]

Okay, thanks. I'll tell her tomorrow :)

[nameless12]

just tell her how you feel in the right moment, tell her in a way that its juts to let her know so that you can be more calm knowing that she knows :)

[Kujiro]

It is a fact that when we get into a relationship we lose 2 of our best friends,
Sometimes, its better to stay at the level of friendship which last much longer then a relationship.

Many a times if the relationship does not work out, pretty much ends the friendship as well.
There are risk one must take to further advance into a level, but the irony is if you dont try, you will never know.

Since both of you are best of "siblings", it should be ok to voice out you feelings to her, there are times whereby the friendship is so close that the other party may take certain matters for granted subconsciously.

No one would beable to predict how she will react to it, but whats more important is if you want to go into a deeper relationship, this is an inevitable first move.

Like i mentioned, the risk is there but nothing venture nothing gain.
The choice is totally up to you, but most regrettable thing that can happen , is by keeping those feelings inside, only to lose her totally and to regret not telling her at all.

You would and should be prepared to face rejection, if so accept it humbly but remember try not to let the rejection stain the good friendship bonds you have formed over such a long time.

Good luck.
Cheers :)

[unnamed]

the same stuff happened to me. she was a very good friend and we would talk everyday on the phone. i then started to like her but i didnt tell her anything. she told me about guys who hurt her and stuff. i felt that i would not do any of that to her and that she always picked the wrong guys. for various reasons i didnt tell her. after seeing that she didnt saw me as i wanted to, i got over her but we were still friends. some weeks later she told me she liked me but i had no feeling for her like that. the friendship got weird and to make it short, we dont speak anymore.

my advice is just tell her. i know that you may overthink what she might say. dont do that. if you are such a good friend with her go and tell her how you feel.