Scape-goat?

[JohnKobra]

I'm just needing an outlet here, a bit lost. I'm 24 and my ex gf who recently found out I self-harm (while we were together) is now using this knowledge against me in saying to everyone (including police) that I have hurt/beat/abused her. She's doing this to explain to police and her family, incidents that have happened to her and her property, that I wasn't involved in or aware of until very recently. She's using her anger at me over the break-up and making me a scapegoat for things I had nothing to do with. As it is she broke up with me after telling me if I'm going to cut myself do it right and cut the veins right through. Which led me to self harm the worst I ever have before, in front of her. I just really needed somewhere to write all of that as the friends I've told about what I've done to myself have been contacted by her and told it's all fake and lies and to ignore what I say. I guess also does anyone else have incidents where there self-harm has been used against them to make them out into some kind of......monster.....or scape-goat for other people's issues? Thanks

[XxMurderedKissesxX]

Im sorry to hear that this is happening to u. It wasnt right of her to say something as horrible as that to u! And then to go and tell lies. U know if u want to,u could charge her for that. Ive had that happen before. My mother screamed at me to just kill myself,that I was a living poison that ruined lives. It hurt. Alot. She said it was my fault shes been so stressed and has dangerously high blood pressure. That finding out about the self-harm was the last straw,that id destroyed her life and there was nothing more i could possibly do to her. She was angry and heartless,because she knew why im like this,and that when I was younger,she could of stopped what was right infront of her,and it wouldnt of lead to my self-harm. Dont let what she said bother u. She doesnt sound like a very nice person. But I know its alot worse because u where in a relationship with her and trusted her. Maybe it was a good thing that u finally got to see her true colours. Try and keep ur head up,ur stronger then someones negativity.

[JohnKobra]

Thank you Katt. It's actually the 1st time I've let everything out like that. It all just makes me feel like I really am that monster. I could never hurt someone else but it's like if I was violent and abusive and hurt her then I wouldn't be hurting myself so how can she turn it around on me like she does...... If it was a question of hurting someone else in anger or hurting me, it's always going to be the same outcome.

[rukia_yua]

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[ShatteredWings]

OP overage and banned, locking