my bro

[osa-cur199]

my brother is gay and i think that might influence me to be gay also. the more and more ithink about being gay the more and more i like it. i dream of being with other guys and i tend to masturbate as i think that. my problem is i feel like i dont want to be gay but its like ment to be or something i need help i really dont want to be in this situation of choosing.:what:

[IanMilo]

You really can't turn gay, so he isn't influencing you. Either you already were, and he just kind of made you realize your feelings. Or you are just in a stage where you are curious. To be gay you need emotional and physical connection to guys. So ask yourself if you could see yourself dating a guy, that's really the only way to know. And you don't have to be certain yet either. Just take the time to think things out before you jump to conclusions

[Santiago22]

U could be gay, only u know that for sure though. In time it will become clear to you as it did to me. It takes time to discover and accept yourself. Hope this helps. :D:D:D

[VamosToro]

I would recommend waiting until puberty is completely over tho because this could just be a stage of puberty. Or it could turn into something. Time will tell.

[giggles]

you should try experimenting, maybe with your brother. after, it might be more clear to you if you are gay or not. is he older or younger?

[Chris95]

you should try experimenting, maybe with your brother. after, it might be more clear to you if you are gay or not. is he older or younger?

That's horrible advice. Despite the fact that, uh hello that's incest, the fact that he would be experimenting with his brother would probably fuck with his mind more than anything.

[osa-cur199]

yea i dont think i would like to expirament with my bro that would make things awkward when we are around eachother:rolleyes:

[Houtz96]

Being gay isn't a choice. Your Born that way.

Now, Lets see how many people oppose that one *waits*

[prob1996]

I agree with most of the earlier posts.

First off, you're wither born gay or not. No matter how much experimenting u do or who u mess around with is going to change this.
Second, ur best bet is to wait and see. Puberty & hormones can really mess with ur feelings and desires. Try not to worry too much aobut it and just accept that ur going to have weird feelings from time to time and it's completely normal!!!

[Kujiro]

Osa-cur199, I am a firm believer that sexuality was never choice; most or many would disagree with me, infulence by your brother maybe pushing you into that direction, but when you are not, i suppose you are not.

Since you are in this current dilemma, my advice to you is this,
why not take time to understand yourself better, give a chance to both sexes and see if its which suits you.
I am not sure if your rents are ok with it, but i assume that with your brother being gay, and has somewhat opened up, then i have reason to assume that they are relatively openminded.

Mingle around both genders equally, bisexuality or homosexuality does not just evolve around sexual, but it comes down to the emotional level as well.
If you are just being turned on sexually, its highly possible that you are more on the curious side.

Explore your thoughts and understanding yourself is the most important step to identifying you own sexuality.

To fully accept who you really are is a huge step in maturity, there are many whom are very old i.e 30 or 40 and are still living in self denial, whilest someothers probably lived in denial their entire life.

Its most important to be in touch with yourself ( no pun intended ). And be honest with yourself. We can lie to anyone in the world, but the truth will always be deep down inside.

Like i have mentioned before to others whom seeked similar sexuality advise, I am not pushing you to follow any direction, but opening your minds to possibilities which you dare not venture in.

Pride, fear and ego are the factors which will be your greatest enemies when coming to accept things that you are not ready to accept.
But at the end of the day, it is you yourself whom is responsible for what you do, you are only answerable to yourself.

Good luck in your journey.
:D

[CityBoy95]

It's good to exercise thinking outside of how people tell us how or what to be... exploring is good, just let it happen. Don't force it.