Frostbite
July 21st, 2011, 11:33 AM
I'm warning you now, this is a long one.
At my school, there is a group of five (me included) who hang out together. I won't be naming names, so for this I'll just call them Person 1/2/3/4. Person One is the one I have a problem with, and the joker of the group, along with me. Person Two is ... well I don't know how to describe her, but she's part of the problem aswell (Mainly Person One though). Person Three is the weird one, and Person Four is the quiet one. I am the joker along with Person One, and I'm not afraid to stick up for my friends or speak my mind, but I'm also the one who everyone shares their secrets with and comes to for advice, even though I'm a very private person myself.
So. The problem.
Lately, Person One has been acting like a real bitch. I mean, she's always had her bitchy moments, but who hasn't? Mischeif and jokes are part of her personality, but sometimes she takes it a bit too far. More and more in the past weeks/couple months she's been dragging me away from the group on the way to class to talk about Person Two behind her back, then acting like they're the best of friends the moment Person Two appears. I know that Person Two is at Person One's house as I type, in fact.
Me, Person One, and Person Two joined a club together recently (as in we've only been three times), and there was another girl joining the same day. I could tell she didn't know anyone so I made the effort to talk to her, whilst Person One and Person Two stuck to themselves the entire night. Me and the other girl quickly became friends and swapped phone numbers and stuff, then at the next meeting Person One is all over the other girl, acting as if they'd been friends for years, when Person One couldn't have given a toss about the girl at the last meeting, even if she'd've tried. Don't get me wrong, I was glad they were being friendly towards each other, but I couldn't - and still can't - shake the feeling that Person One suddenly took interest in the new girl because she was jealous that I was the girl's friend first.
Another thing, Person One and Person Two fancy the same guy.
Person One has known Person Two has fancied this guy for months, and now, suddenly, Person One is telling us all how she "has fancied him since she met him seven years ago" (Which I think is complete bullshit - I won't go into this now, but there is another reason why I think that).
Around a week ago, Person One told me this (I was the first person she told), asking advice on what to do. I told her it would be best to tell Person Two, which she did. I made it clear that I thought both girls should have the other's permission before asking the guy out, so that neither of them got hurt. However, Person One seemed to think Person Two's acceptance of the crush and hesitation to ask the guy out was a go-ahead for her to ask him out instead.
It wasn't, and Person Two confided in me that she was really upset by Person One's actions, and that she was never really OK with her liking him in the first place.
Thankfully, the guy turned her down (Because it all would've gone to hell if he had said yes), so Person One began pressuring Person Two to ask the guy out instead. She even offered to find out whether or not he liked Person Two back. Person Two declined, saying she didn't want to risk the friendship she has with the guy, and I thought Person One was OK with that, but she wasn't.
The five of us had a sleepover last weekend, and we dared Person One to text the guy saying "I wanna touch your dick", so she did. After they all fell asleep, I checked Person One's phone to see if the guy had replied to the dare, because she hadn't said anything about it. As I was looking for the text, I noticed she had been texting him all evening, and at one point, she'd asked the guy whether or not he fancied Person Two, which is exactly what Person Two asked her not to do.
It's been several days now, and I haven't said anything to anyone about looking through her messages or what I found. I really, really don't know what to do, but I can't just sit here and have this knowledge yet do nothing about it. It's becoming a serious burden and I need to tell someone.
Anyone who is kind enough to have read all this, you are a legend and I would be so greatful if you could give me some advice, both to the crush problem and the bitchiness I mentioned at the start. Thankyou(:
At my school, there is a group of five (me included) who hang out together. I won't be naming names, so for this I'll just call them Person 1/2/3/4. Person One is the one I have a problem with, and the joker of the group, along with me. Person Two is ... well I don't know how to describe her, but she's part of the problem aswell (Mainly Person One though). Person Three is the weird one, and Person Four is the quiet one. I am the joker along with Person One, and I'm not afraid to stick up for my friends or speak my mind, but I'm also the one who everyone shares their secrets with and comes to for advice, even though I'm a very private person myself.
So. The problem.
Lately, Person One has been acting like a real bitch. I mean, she's always had her bitchy moments, but who hasn't? Mischeif and jokes are part of her personality, but sometimes she takes it a bit too far. More and more in the past weeks/couple months she's been dragging me away from the group on the way to class to talk about Person Two behind her back, then acting like they're the best of friends the moment Person Two appears. I know that Person Two is at Person One's house as I type, in fact.
Me, Person One, and Person Two joined a club together recently (as in we've only been three times), and there was another girl joining the same day. I could tell she didn't know anyone so I made the effort to talk to her, whilst Person One and Person Two stuck to themselves the entire night. Me and the other girl quickly became friends and swapped phone numbers and stuff, then at the next meeting Person One is all over the other girl, acting as if they'd been friends for years, when Person One couldn't have given a toss about the girl at the last meeting, even if she'd've tried. Don't get me wrong, I was glad they were being friendly towards each other, but I couldn't - and still can't - shake the feeling that Person One suddenly took interest in the new girl because she was jealous that I was the girl's friend first.
Another thing, Person One and Person Two fancy the same guy.
Person One has known Person Two has fancied this guy for months, and now, suddenly, Person One is telling us all how she "has fancied him since she met him seven years ago" (Which I think is complete bullshit - I won't go into this now, but there is another reason why I think that).
Around a week ago, Person One told me this (I was the first person she told), asking advice on what to do. I told her it would be best to tell Person Two, which she did. I made it clear that I thought both girls should have the other's permission before asking the guy out, so that neither of them got hurt. However, Person One seemed to think Person Two's acceptance of the crush and hesitation to ask the guy out was a go-ahead for her to ask him out instead.
It wasn't, and Person Two confided in me that she was really upset by Person One's actions, and that she was never really OK with her liking him in the first place.
Thankfully, the guy turned her down (Because it all would've gone to hell if he had said yes), so Person One began pressuring Person Two to ask the guy out instead. She even offered to find out whether or not he liked Person Two back. Person Two declined, saying she didn't want to risk the friendship she has with the guy, and I thought Person One was OK with that, but she wasn't.
The five of us had a sleepover last weekend, and we dared Person One to text the guy saying "I wanna touch your dick", so she did. After they all fell asleep, I checked Person One's phone to see if the guy had replied to the dare, because she hadn't said anything about it. As I was looking for the text, I noticed she had been texting him all evening, and at one point, she'd asked the guy whether or not he fancied Person Two, which is exactly what Person Two asked her not to do.
It's been several days now, and I haven't said anything to anyone about looking through her messages or what I found. I really, really don't know what to do, but I can't just sit here and have this knowledge yet do nothing about it. It's becoming a serious burden and I need to tell someone.
Anyone who is kind enough to have read all this, you are a legend and I would be so greatful if you could give me some advice, both to the crush problem and the bitchiness I mentioned at the start. Thankyou(: