Singles Rant

[IanMilo]

So basically I'm going to rant. I am really sick of being led on. Earlier this year a guy invited me to go on a drive, so I said sure. We went to a parking lot and he asked what I would do if he kissed me. So I said I would let him. So he kissed me which led to a make-out then he drove me home. We kept in touch for like a day. Then he was just gone, every time we passed each other in the hall he would be sure to occupy himself as he got near. So basically he used me I guess. So That really put a nasty start to a tough year.

And now one of my friends who dated a different guy every week all year tells me she did it because she loved me and was trying to make herself not love me. So I basically spent a few weeks liking her then finding out she was always taken. And normally I would jump at the fact that she is single now. But she has been with so many guys I don't know whether she is just saying that to get me to do stuff with her or not. And I honestly don't know how many people she had sex with, or even if it was safe. She says twice, both safe. But she just moved around here and got a reputation for compulsive lying early on. So that's kind of a screwed position.

And now I am just sick of being single. I want love. The guy I like now led me on for 2 months but now he is with some dude, so I'm being a "happy Friend" for him, but it sucks. I am just so tired of all these heartbreaks and fakes. I'm ready for someone real. I know I'm young and any relationship I get in won't last, but I just don't care, I am ready to be loved. So yeah...

Thanks for reading, and for support that those of you who post will hopefully give.

-Ian

[LuckyLuke]

Hey Ian, may I be so bold as to ask if you've made out/went further as early as the first date perhaps the second date in most or all cases?

Please allow me to tell a bit of a story,

My very close friend, Jen, had been in very few relationships prior to her past "boyfriend". She had been friends with benefits before as well as, much like you, been led on in order to receive some form of physical pleasure. Jen was done-finished-over with dating, until John.

She had met John at a friends concert and immediately grew a great liking towards him. He was cute, charming, intelligent, well off, and had a smile that, she felt, could paralyze a crowd in it's grace.

Soon after the party, John began to text Jen and day after day they became closer and closer. Jen wrote, called, facebooked me minute by minute plays of what John was saying to her and even I began to become entranced in Johns smooth-talk; unfortunately, that's all it was.

After a wonderful day out, their first date, John smooth-talked himself into Jens mouth and, soon after, down below. Jen felt this man was the one for her and they'd be together for months to years to come- they weren't.

The morning after they had their fun John texted her, "Hey, I had a lot of fun last night but we should just be friends... unless you wana' be 'special friends'".

Jen was heartbroken. She felt used, abused, embarrassed and thrown to the side like a piece of trash.

And Ian, this isn't an isolated incident. Date after date and friend after friend I hear these guys breaking up with wonderful, honest, and gentle girls after they'd gotten what they wanted on the first date. Whether that be as little as kissing or perhaps a bit further, they didn't discriminate.

Now to my point Ian: I'd strongly suggest that you insist on nothing more than a *PECK* on the lips on the first and perhaps even the second date so long as you desire to have a lasting relationship. It's not the fact that you're withholding pleasure from your partner that'll get them to stay, it's that you're showing them that your trust and beauty is something to be earned and not a bag fluttering about the wind for anyone to take.

Good luck and best wishes Ian!

Lucky Luke

[LuckyLuke]

Excuse me, double post.

[IanMilo]

Thanks :) I'm a lot more careful about how I handle myself now though. I had a pretty messed up start in the world of relationships. And thanks for the help :) as always