I need help..

[TtotheC]

Soo here's the thing..

I have a girlfriend, for about a year now, but i found out that i could really enjoy gay porn, it would turn me on so much more than normal porn.. I'm 18 now, and im really starting to worry that i'm gay, i just dont know what to think anymore...

She turns me on easily!! really well too! I just dont understand why gay porn is exciting to me, i've never been attracted to a male in real life before, it's actually really uncomfortable just thinking about it.. Maybe the uncomfortability is exciting to me, and it turns me on because it's not something i'd do in real life?

Anyone please, help.. Help me out of this, even if it's just a bit..

[Angel Androgynous]

Haha a lot of straight guys are turned on by gay porn more than straight porn. You are just becoming paranoid. If guys don't sexually and emotionally attract you outside of porn, then you are fine. ^_^ (I mean sure there is a possibility that you might be curious/bi, but I doubt it. ^_^)
And maybe you are also turned on by the taboo (to a heterosexual male) aspect of gay porn.

[IanMilo]

Just because you find gay porn pleasing does not make you gay. Lots of people have watched it without being gay. Even at 18 you can still be curious and have surging hormones. As long as your girlfriend is still able to turn you on you are fine. Being gay requires an emotional attraction as well as a physical one

[prob1996]

Liking gay porn doesn't make u gay. Porn is just a fantasy, it's nothing compared to the real relationships that u engage in. U said you have a girlfriend that u love and turns u on, that's awesome---we should all be that lucky. Concentrate on that and not worry so much about the gay porn. It is a sexual act, anything sexual turns me on. doesn't mean I like it or want to even try it. you have a wonderful connection physically and emtionally to your girlfriend. don't worry so much the porn.

[Schizothemia]

Watching gay porn doesn't make you gay. Being homosexual means that you see yourself with a man, that you see an emotional connection as well as a physical. From the sounds of it you aren't even bisexual really, because again that implies an interest from an emotional standpoint which you clearly don't have.

That being said, it might just be a sense of curiosity. A lot of guys are curious about how the other half of their same sex lives.

Now I'm going to say something I say a lot when this issue of "Am I gay?" comes up: don't worry about it. We place too much importance on labels, especially in sexuality. People become obsessed with trying to figure out their sexual identity right away instead of enjoying the process! I mean it's sex for goodness sakes!! We should be enjoying the process! Not worrying if we might offend someone because we find the same sex attractive, or transexuals attractive or what have you. Love, who you love and don't care what others think, and while I know that's an easy thing to say, you'll be much happier in the end not worrying about these unnecessary titles.

[TtotheC]

Thanks a lot everybody:) im getting better with the worrying every day, im gonna focus on my girlfriend a lot more instead of worrying, figured it's not worth my time even. I dont feel like experimenting or doing anything like that!! even watching gay porn, i dont really prefer it, it's not doing anything good for me, im not going to break my amazing bond with my girlfriend, decisions decisions. :)

thanks again!

[Kujiro]

kudus to you TtotheC,
Treasure every special moment you have with your partner. Its awesome to have someone who shares mutual love and respect for.

Bear in mind though, enjoying any genre of porn has no direct effect on your current relationship.

Generally being the male, one's expected to not only be responsible for the good decisions, but for the bad ones as well.
The road ahead will be a long one.
Best wishes to you, you have my support.
*winks*

[grstl]

I don't think sexually has to be "either/or." I think most people are evolving combinations of sexualities. Just relax into what turns you on at the time, and don't miss the pleasure of the moment or other person/people who stir you up.

[TtotheC]

kudus to you TtotheC,
Treasure every special moment you have with your partner. Its awesome to have someone who shares mutual love and respect for.

Bear in mind though, enjoying any genre of porn has no direct effect on your current relationship.

Generally being the male, one's expected to not only be responsible for the good decisions, but for the bad ones as well.
The road ahead will be a long one.
Best wishes to you, you have my support.
*winks*

Thanks little buddy, you're very clever for your age, keep up the good work!!:) you're on your way to becomming a very smart dude:)

[Kujiro]

Thanks little buddy, you're very clever for your age, keep up the good work!!:) you're on your way to becomming a very smart dude:)

Awee geez..!
Thanks :D