Am I Bi?

[ConfusedTeen32]

Hello all, 16 year old Teenage male here.

I was always pretty confident in my heterosexuality, but for the past few days I've been wondering if I might perhaps be slightly bisexual?

It's not something I'd actually be ashamed of, but it would come as a major shock since, well, I never really found men erotic. I've never pursued relationships and don't plan to for a while, though I have found of my older female classmates attractive while ignoring the boys.

Anyway, this all started one night when I was fantasizing in bed; I have an attraction to females in tight pants, and out of boredom, I tried to fantasize a male in those tight pants.

To my surprise, I noticed I started getting a very slight erection, though when I started to think about the more masculine features, like his chest and genitals, it died down.

All wet dreams I had always involved females, and I've never fantasized about getting with a man before. I haven't noticed a loss of attraction to women either.

Looking at photos of men in the same clothing does nothing, while looking at photos of women in that attire does arouse me.

Am I just confusing myself here? Might I be bi-sexual?

I do worry sometimes about turning full gay, as silly as it is, or ending up in a relationship with a member of the same-sex, since I want to get married and have children some day.

I hope I don't come across as offensive, I don't hate homosexuals nor do I just view women as erotic objects.

As of now I'm just rather confused and maybe a bit frightened.

[Matt_is_Awesome]

your not bi its just puberty that makes everyone think about men and how they look! Ur 100 percent straight at least it sounded that way to me bro

[Mynameisconner]

I can inform you in great certainty that you may be curious, but even that is a little over stepping. You have nothing to worry about in the least bit. No need to worry about t at all

[IanMilo]

You have to have an emotional attatchment to guys to consider yourself bi. If it's just physical then you are most likely just curious unless it develops into emotional

[Kujiro]

I think you are just curious about guys, fantasizing does not really make you gay or bi.
In fact, i think you are just confused the moment you ventured into the possibilites of bisexuality.

And even more surprised when your body reacted to it.
At that point of time, it could be a surge of emotions and just plain hornyness.
Its not something that you should be worrying too much about at the moment.

Its like you are on the main road with a little detour, the signage says it takes you to the destination but you are afraid to venture and explore at the same time.

Since you are at this point, open up your heart and give yourself and opportunity to understand yourself better.
I am not pushing you to either direction, but advising you to explore and understand your own genome better.

A better example i have quoted on another thread before when i first joined VT,
We are now having a game of blackjack
You have an Ace,
Dealer gives you a Queen you get blackjack.
Dealer gives you a King you get blackjack.

Most important phase in everyone is to be true to yourself, and be responsible for the decisions you make.


As for me i believe that sexuality is not a matter of choice, but most may disagree with me.
But to find these answers are totally up to yourself, of course you may choose to stick on the main path and carry on with everything. But since you have asked im just offering my 2 cents worth.

Good luck mate