Comming Out?

[JayJaySpiritus]

How did everyone come out about their sexuality? like if your Gay or Bisexual?

I mean all the posts you read on here say like its hard or people wont exempt it.. it seems a whole lot of shit. I mean i dont know many other people that have extreme issue with it as I did. & i dont give a fuck. haha

So yea sorry Anyways Answer away. :)

[Portable Desert]

I was first open about it here on VT. I came out to a friend of mine a month or so later, and I told my mother a few days ago. You just say it when you are ready. I felt like I was, but telling my mother was one of the hardest things I have done.

[PartyPoison]

I was at my friends house and we got on the topic of sexuality and my friend asked me if I was gay/straight/bi and I answered "straight-ish" then I came out as "bisexual" and now I guess you could consider me a lesbian but I hate that word so I just say I'm gay, and I like some guys but I really am not sexually attracted to them, more so emotionally attracted. I'm just like any other teenage girl that constantly talks about guys, I just talk about girls, which causes problems at school because I'm so openly gay, but whatever. My parents don't know. If they did I'd be disowned

[blackout123123]

I first came out to my best friend, to see how she would take it. After a few weeks I then came out to my male best friend. From there, seeing as things went pretty well, I decided to announce it to everyone over facebook. The whole thing didn't take that long or that hard.

[Schizothemia]

The process of coming out is difficult for two fold:

1. It takes a lot of courage to accept yourself once you think you've figured it out. A lot of people are terrified of looking at themselves and accepting any truth about themselves because they are so used to sticking to this ideal of who they think they are supposed to be. Around you, you are taught to be this certain type of individual and that is entirely dependent upon the environment in which you grow up in. And you have this idea of you are supposed to be, and then you have to face the fact that the person you think you're supposed to be simply isn't you.

2. It's terrifying telling anyone because being gay is so stigmatized. It's taboo and no one really wants to think about it. Not to mention you start ripping away at that ideal of who people think you are supposed to be. You thought it was hard just accepting who you are and how differently it clashes with who you think you should be, imagine what it's like now facing 10-15 other people now facing that same dilemma.

My coming out experience was tough. I come from a very religious family (although I myself am an atheist) and a lot of my family just didn't accept it. They branded me a heathen and decided I was no longer a member of the family to them. Not to mention losing all of my friends because they either thought I would hit on them, or they would become gay because they knew me.

It's not the same for everyone though. I have a friend who came out to her family and friends and we all completely supported her. It varies from person to person, but as tough as it is, it's even tougher denying who you are. Once you accept it, you learn to love yourself for who you are and it makes you stronger because you begin to see that people are just jealous that you have the courage to face the "social norm" and say fuck you, I am who I am. And while others are filled with bigotous hatred, fuck them, because their hatred is unfounded and does nothing to help them.

[Aliasing]

I came out to my Cousin first. One Facebook, because she was in Thailand at the time. Then I told my best friend as he slept over, just blurted it out.

[terbear]

I'm only partially out, but I just talked to a friend over skype and she was totally accepting with it.