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TotallyConfusedGuy
July 18th, 2011, 02:03 PM
Hello everyone, I'm pretty new here so I don't know where should I post this...
I'm 15, and lately I had a tough crush on someone from another country. Yesterday, I met a guy, on a cybersex purpose, but before doing it, we started talking, and we really started to like each other.
I'm really confused, because, well, first for the embarrassing reason - when we finally came to doing it, (3 hours of talking later) I just couldn't ejaculate, or even get hard, and this guy was really nice and really hot.
Besides that, I don't know what I feel towards my previous crush (whom I never told he was a crush), I don't know what to do, and I like this guy (who is from my country) but all this day, I talked to him, we really liked each other (we are the same age, too) but I feel bad all day long. I don't think it's just a mood. Shortly, I don't know what my feelings are, and I don't know what to do >< Also he has had sex with his ex girlfriend, and he was in a sexual relationship with a 20 years old guy, and I feel like I'm totally behind, and I fear loosing him, I fear that he will loose interest in me, but I'm also afraid of going forward with him. We decided just to be friends, without anything sexed, and it's great, because again, we really like each other, but I still feel wrong with this, and I like him, and I'm confused as hell >< Can someone suggest me what should i do? Why do I feel bad? How to sort my thought out? thank you >< And I'm sorry it turned out so long, but I had to tel someone about it, and I'm really confused, and scared of loosing it...

Stronger
July 18th, 2011, 02:24 PM
Well, there isnt much you can do, he lived in a different country, did u actually see him? For all you know he could b 70-year old pervert? Even if he wanted to be with him how would it work?

Kujiro
July 18th, 2011, 02:48 PM
Yo, chill im alittle confused by your post too.

So are you having a crush on the guy online for cybersex from another country?
Or your ex crush whom is the same age from your country?

you mentioned the both of you liked each other, but you never told him you had a crush on him, so he admitted that he liked you as well ?

But you are feeling that you are behind because hes more sexually experienced than you are?

And finally you decided to be friends and its great, but yet you feel unsecure of the relationship you are in because you are afraid of losing him.

You are afraid that he will not want to be you friend?

Any form of relationship needs to contain a certain level of mutual trust and understanding before anything is going to work out.
If you really want him to know how you feel, you should tell him before its too late.
Because at the end of the day if he is to walk out on you without you telling him, im sure you are going to feel much worst.

Pluck out that courage and have a nice talk with him, expressing how you feel and how insecure you are feeling at the moment.

The only person who is able to help you in this situitation would be yourself.
Go ahead take the first step, regardless of the result, at least you have made it known your intentions to him

All the best.
*smile*

TotallyConfusedGuy
July 19th, 2011, 07:34 PM
Ok, thank you guys :) I think I'm starting to sort out my thoughts...