So im thinking of coming out right now.............

[Philleeep]

Yeah I've decided I think im ready to come out. Does going on facebook and changing your interests to men and women and then deleting the post count as coming out because I think im going to do it like that. But I think im ready to do this, im shaking about it and really nervous and my heart is racing and i just wonder what people are going to think and who will see it first if they even do, and if any distant/close family see it and if it will add onto the list of other things they hate me for. Or some of my friends, what will they think just really worried but i think i want to do it, should I delay doing it if i still feel like this or should i go ahead and do it.................:confused:

[Koffing]

I should first tell it to a few peoples who you really trust (some friends, maybe your parents, sisters/brothers). I shouldn't change it on facebook etc. unless you really thought about it and only if you are really sure about it.

[prob1996]

I should first tell it to a few peoples who you really trust (some friends, maybe your parents, sisters/brothers). I shouldn't change it on facebook etc. unless you really thought about it and only if you are really sure about it.

^^^Agreed^^^

I applaud you for making this decision. Certainly braver than I have been about my own sexuality. It's a huge step for you and everything your feeling has to be overwhelming at times. But only you know if it is the right time for you. Everyone here can give u advice, tell u what to do, share their stories but at the end of the day, trust your gut and it will be the right thing to do!

About the FB thing...FB connects somany people. if u change ur interests and people take notice---the feedback could get overwhelming. Build your confidence up, tell a few people u really trust--get that posiitive feedback to boost ur self esteem and then when u feel like u handle, take on the FB thing.

Again, very brave of u with coming to terms with who u are. Very admirable to guys like me.

[Timmy93]

Well first of congrats and I'm happy that you decided to come out you are true to yourself and im happy that you did so yeah it counts if you put it on here butyou gave clues on facebook

[TrAnSMaN09]

Just do it, Just go ahead and do it, You'll feel sooo much better

[Kujiro]

I should first tell it to a few peoples who you really trust (some friends, maybe your parents, sisters/brothers). I shouldn't change it on facebook etc. unless you really thought about it and only if you are really sure about it.

I agree with what koffing said.
You should start by telling your sibling and parents and you besties.

Facebook should be a slightly later step, as we all know im not sure about you but i have my teachers and a few student councillors on my fb as well. which makes it alittle inconvient for me if im going to get pass some unnecessary councilling.

Some of your friends would take it as a joke while you will see some start to distance yourself from you.

To take this step is very brave and takes huge guts to make the first move.
And needless to say you are too aware of what would be to come in the near future.

Take it one step at a time, as you meet new friends tell them of your sexuality as they get to know you better.

Im sure the backlash would not be that devastating.

Good luck and well done.
You have my blessings and greatest of support.

[Aliasing]

Don't do it on Facebook. That's a blatant rule. It is the internet, meaning that it will be a complete bitch later on. Since everyone has access to that Info; come out to your close friends and family first. That's my advice

[LuckyLuke]

Phil,

You know how much I support you in any decision you decide to make but you really need to discuss this with your family first. You need to allow your family to absorb the information and discuss it with you and "inform" the rest of the family before you spread it throughout facebook.

Love ya Phil,

Best of wishes and good luck.

[JayJaySpiritus]

its a small step. but still a step bro :)
I like you Dp of L :) haha

[Cudder]

It's great your doing what's right. You shouldn't be worried about other people. Real friends and real family who love you won't judge you, and they will still treat you the same.

[Matt_is_Awesome]

What my some of my good friends that came out did
They Told a few people and gradually it spread and he told people and its like alright thats cool lol.
But if your best friends dint like it there not really your best friends
Bro I wish u the BEST of luck!!!
Soooo Goood Luck and Talk to me on how it went k :D

[Schizothemia]

I would say take it as a gradual process.

I did what you were considering doing, back when it wasn't as easy as changing interests on Facebook. I ended up telling everyone I knew at a party, playing Truth or Dare, and it ended up causing a ton more harm than help. The gradual process allows you to work with these individuals one or two at a time, helping reduce the difficulty and stress of the process.

Start off with individuals you trust, and when I say trust, they must be people who you know would never tell anyone, even if they don't support it. I know that sounds like a tough qualification but as great as it is that you are accepting of who you are that doesn't necessarily make the process any easier.

[Kujiro]

I would say take it as a gradual process.

I did what you were considering doing, back when it wasn't as easy as changing interests on Facebook. I ended up telling everyone I knew at a party, playing Truth or Dare, and it ended up causing a ton more harm than help. The gradual process allows you to work with these individuals one or two at a time, helping reduce the difficulty and stress of the process.

Start off with individuals you trust, and when I say trust, they must be people who you know would never tell anyone, even if they don't support it. I know that sounds like a tough qualification but as great as it is that you are accepting of who you are that doesn't necessarily make the process any easier.

Well said, creating it as a gradual process would likely be the best way out.
Most importantly is self acceptance.
Those that you trust are doing the right thing, they would and should not spread as it is considered sensitive and private information.

As i mentioned earlier, do be prepared for many to look at you through tinted glasses.
But this is as well a good litmus test for true friends.
If they are a "stay" or a "nay".
To an extend its doing yourself a favour.

[kuuliluuk]

I do admire your decision. Truly!