Making friends.

[Melchi0r]

There's a gay guy in my school and I'm interested in being friends with him. I don't find him that attractive except for his smile; I'd rather be friends!

So I want to make friends with him and be able to talk with him about the hardships about liking other dudes and having to gain acceptance for it, plus I want to get more friends who are less homophobic and push away some of the homophobic ones. (This of course will lead to healthier relationships for me.)

But there's a problem with this guy because he doesn't seem to like me. He only accepts as friends a small amount of guys, and they are his fellow cheerleaders and a few others. He doesn't seem to like me too much but maybe that could change. I'm sure we can be friends.

I'm friends with some of his friends which might help.

Advice please?

[Kamloops.man]

Hmm well if you become friends then ask if he's a homophobe but try hanging out with him..

[Melchi0r]

Hmm well if you become friends then ask if he's a homophobe but try hanging out with him..

Erm of course he's not a homophobe. He's gay.

[schrei jess]

Well Im terrible at making friends so my advice might not be good but Ill try and help.

Okay whenever you are around him, just try to be as friendly as possible. Strike up conversations about anything when you get a chance and try to keep his attention. Find common interests, like if you find out you both really love horror movies, invite him to go to the movies one friday or something. Just try to appear like a really great guy and like the most friendly person you can be. Dont try to act like anyone other than yourself, though, that will lead to nothing. And if he doesnt seem to like you, then there really isnt anything you can do - you cant force someone to like you. Just give him as many chances as possible to see how cool you are!~

[Melchi0r]

Thank you!
I've noticed the fact that both him and I are able to act really silly. Maybe that might help.

[Mirataku]

A common ground is the best way to start a relationship