Help..anyone..?

[Hopegirl]

Im new to this website, i found it cuz i was searching for a way to talk to people who can hopefully help me out of my self-harm, my friends have slowly been pushing me away and i just feel alone. I used to cut alot last year after an event which im reluctant to talk about, it started off my self harm along with paranoia and depression, im unable to talk to friends as i just dont feel i cant trust them. Its 20 past midnight and i cut about an hour ago out of frustration :confused: I just really need some help,anyone...?

[CyanideGoodnight]

Try write out what exactly is frustrating you, and do other things you know can help relax you. And if you want to cut for the blood, try writing on yourself with red pen, as that seems to help a few people when the urge gets bad

[1_21Guns]

Instead of picking up the blade, pick up a piece of paper and a pen, although at first it may seem like your mind is empty, try and focus on what your feelings are, what words are getting you down, making you crave cutting. Scribble them all down, then if you so wish rip the piece of paper up into little bits, or work towards making these feelings positive, and once they've got better, scribble them out.
Cutting won't make your friends come closer, it'll make you isolate yourself and feel more alone than you already do
although people on here aren't there in real life, we are here to help you online :hug3:

[Hopegirl]

I just get frustrated becaause i just feel like my friends arent there for me :/ i do everything for them and they just call me an attention seeker, selfish and fake :/ I know people say writing stuff down helps but i realy cant bring myself to it just because it doesnt feel right :/ I dont really do it for the blood...just the pain is like im turning emotional pain into something i can cope with-physical pain..i only feel theres one person i can talk to and hes a guy, but talking to him seems to make people think that im flirting with him and stuff..and because i have a boyfriend it makes it worse because it screws up my relationship even tho this guy really understands the self-harm..whereas my bf never has cut so he just gets over worried about me instead of trying to help me properly...:/

[1_21Guns]

I'm gonna tell you something that you'll learn sooner or later in real life. The only person that will ever always be there for you, is yourself. Some learn this early on, some learn it the hard way, some just know. But either way, that's the way the world works. We allow ourselves to be put on the line because it feels better to have someone there so we're willing to take the risk.
Yeah sure, sucks giving everything out and getting nothing back. Stop then, they clearly aren't your friends to be saying those things. Explain to your boyfriend, and frankly, if people are doing that OMG SHE'S FLIRTING stuff, it's really childish, and they need to grow up.
Atleast he worries Nadia, he cares and he doesn't like you doing that to yourself, it hurts and it's not making anything better, you don't need cutting hun, prove them all wrong, you're not fake, and you're not selfish, and self harm isn't a cry for attention and you know that. But it's not an escape, it just feels like one :hug3:

[XxMurderedKissesxX]

Well first off,welcome to the site : ) Ive been here awhile and its really helped me. Secondly,I understand where ur comming from. It feels like I cant talk to my friends about my problems bc they would judge and just,not get it. Even my bestie who used to cut,gives me dirty looks whenever she suspects anything. And that bothers me. But im more the happy to try to help u in whatever way I can. When u feel upset/frustrated, before u pick up the blade,try to distract urself,maybe go for a walk,try writing down how u feel,go into a room,or area where u cant self harm,or simply tell urself,if I still have the urge in fifteen twenty minutes,ill do it. And see how long u can go without. Sometimes snapping an elastic band on ur wrist,or squeezing ice,can kill the urge. Have u heard of the butterfly trick? Draw a butterfly on ur arm,or wherever u cut,and name it after someone u love,and see how long u can "Keep it alive" and everytime u self harm,u have to cross out the butterfly bc it "dies". I usually put line on my arm with red marker. Hopefully one of the things ive named help u.
U can PM whenever : 3

[LiTTleBrok3nDolly]

I also have depression and paranoia, have meds for both, and for anxiety disorder. Instead of cutting, write down how you feel, like the rest of us said. IT really helps me, and if you dont trust your friends, trust us as your friends.

You can talk to me about depression, cutting, or paranoia anytime (i have crazy paranoia stories) plus, we are your friends :)

[Expectence]

I used to cut and I know how you feel.

Even if your friends are pushing you away or ignoring you, confront them and tell them that you feel left out. If that doesn't work, then tell them you started cutting. They should be scared and try to stop you.
MAKE SURE TO STOP CUTTING! Trust me, it never helps. It's just a way to make you lose blood and help you get one step closer to losing your lfe. To stop the cutting, make sure your friends support you no matter what. If they don't, make new and good friends that support you to stop cutting. That usually helps you. If it doesn't. Throw away all sharp objects that could harm you and attempt to resist anything sharp.

Hope this helps. :)

[Donna Noble]

Hey Nadia.

First off I'm sorry you're going through such a hard time with all of this now. Self harm, depression and paranioa are all things I can say I relate to you about, and I realise it's a hard thing to deal with. It is, however, something you can live with and live happily with for that matter. None of these things need to be a hinder to your happiness. Now, I'm not for one moment saying Self harm is something you should live with, and should have made that clear. What I mean to say it that it's something you can over come gradually, or at once, and begin a new, better life without. I know once you become addicted to self inflicted injury, it is difficult to stop, but it's not impossible. There are many alternatives you can use to overcome the urges and distract yourself when you feel the need to cut. For example, you could scribble on a piece of paper until the anger, frustration or hurt is gone. You could maybe write to get the emotion out. Perhaps you could do something silly to make yourself laugh instead! There really is no limit, just as long as it's something that you aren't hurting yourself with.

I hope you get through this, and remember to stay strong!
Hollie.

[Hopegirl]

Thank You so much this has really helped me..Im really into the idea of the butterfly because i know i cud never hurt anyone i love and i know im technically hurting them by doing it so it does kinda put it into prospective :) The friend took the blade off me accidently..(kinda of purpose i think xD) and it takes away the temptation a bit..

[xktx]

Hey, Ive lost friends over this, it gets easier, try taking your frustration out on something else, like a piece of paper, just write stuff down. If your friends are not here for you now, they're obviously not friends worth keeping. You'll find more, maybe even someone who understands what your going through. Just know there's loads of people out there to talk to :)