Suicidal Friends

[Salvi]

I have this suicidal friend whom I've known for a long time. Lately he's been more depressed than usual and had to even have surgery because he hurt his body so much he caused internal damage. I've tried helping him as much as I can... he lives far away in Ohio while I live in California. Whenever he had a problem he'd call me now he doesn't even text or call me...like at all. Before he'd text me in the morning and we'd text and talk everyday. He's stopped now and idk why.

So i guess my question is:

Is this because he's depressed or for another reason? And if it is because of depression do I just wait until he goes back to his normal self or should I text and call him or should I wait for him to feel better and for him to start?

[FullyAlive]

I've been in this position and I myself probably put others in this position too. But without knowing your friend I can't tell you whether or it's the depression or something else. It could well be the depression, when I get suicidal or depressed I push people away, stop talking, avoid answering questions. But this doesn't mean I want them to leave it probably means I need them more than ever.

However it could just as easily be that he is fine and just wants to grow up. Maybe he's made new friends who live by him and he's busy. It sounds harsh but it might be true.

It's really up to you to decide which you think it is. If you think he is feeling down. Don't just wait for him to come to you, he might not do that, he doesn't want to burden you. Text him or call him, remind him he's important to you, and you're here for him whatever. If you think it's just him growing up moving on, the best thing you can do is talk to him. Find out what he's thinking, and maybe stop texting him as much distance yourself from him a little, you never know he might cone back to you.

[Salvi]

I've been in this position and I myself probably put others in this position too. But without knowing your friend I can't tell you whether or it's the depression or something else. It could well be the depression, when I get suicidal or depressed I push people away, stop talking, avoid answering questions. But this doesn't mean I want them to leave it probably means I need them more than ever.

However it could just as easily be that he is fine and just wants to grow up. Maybe he's made new friends who live by him and he's busy. It sounds harsh but it might be true.

It's really up to you to decide which you think it is. If you think he is feeling down. Don't just wait for him to come to you, he might not do that, he doesn't want to burden you. Text him or call him, remind him he's important to you, and you're here for him whatever. If you think it's just him growing up moving on, the best thing you can do is talk to him. Find out what he's thinking, and maybe stop texting him as much distance yourself from him a little, you never know he might cone back to you.

Well thanks that really helped :) you're right I should at least try to still be there with him until he says otherwise