Apparently I seem gay, how do I stop??

[LKIFMRUG9556]

Well, the thing is, I definitely like girls. But some people seem to thing I'm gay and others really don't thing I'm gay. But I hate my voice, and it's not very deep and I'm 16, so I think it sounds gay :/

Because of this whole thing with people thinking I'm gay, I think I've developed a serious paranoia, where ever I go I think people are judging me etc. I also have ask out girls but I've been rejected a few times, so I have low self esteem.

The thing is, I've thought about being gay...and I really, really don't think I am...if anything I'm bisexual because I want a wife and kids etc.

I don't care if I do turn out Bi tbh, I don't think I will though...but how do I stop 'seeming' gay because alot of people see it as a bad thing, I know its not...but, you know...

[skater94]

My voice is kinda deep, and some people still think I'm gay. Some guy even asked me out...:confused: Anyways, don't feel insecure about yourself and don't be influenced by others' opions of you. I know it sounds kind of cliche...
We are all a little different, maybe your voice will change or maybe not. It shouldn't affect your inclination to girls. Plus, we are supposed to be confused about our sexuality anyways.

[IanNE]

stop thinking youre gay then :)

[Schizothemia]

It's not a matter of you changing who you are, it's a matter of society's perception of the gay stereotype. Just be who you are and let people think what they like. We are a society of individualists and somehow many of us are affected by the social pressures of trying to fit in.

Just be yourself, your voice will deepen with time, my voice didn't really get deep until I was about to turn 17. So don't let it bother you, your time will come, and even if it doesn't, who cares? People shouldn't be judging you based on your voice, and do you really want those type of people (who do judge you on one characteristic,or two or three or whatever) in your life in the first place?

[tyler17OKC]

Just ignore those people. Your body will do what it's gonna do over time.

[Angel Androgynous]

Honey, you don't choose to be gay. You can't "stop" being gay/bi. You either are or you aren't. (: You are just being paranoid. If you can't see yourself with a guy, if you are not attracted to guys, and if you like girls, then you are more than likely straight...just very...very paranoid.
If you seem gay to people, that's just them seeing the gay stereotype, which is really stupid. Only you know your sexuality. People can't just assume that. I wasn't very helpful. xD

[Voldemort]

just dont mind them, ppl r so rude these days.

[MilitemDilectam]

Don't change unless you really want to..you can't force yourself to start liking UFC and listen to gangsta rap if you're not interested in either..

If you're not gay..don't force it on yourself man..a girl will like you eventually

I had a teacher who walked and talked like a "stereotypical" gay guy but he's happily married with kids and is in fact against homosexuality (no offense meant in anyway)

[Apollo.]

Man I'm the opposite I am gay and I tried to come out to close friends an yet laughed and still think I was joking apparently "I'm way to straight to be gay" let them think what they want. Also a lot of straight guys seem to be like the stereotypical gay nowadays hence the term "metrosexual"

[tyler007]

Well if your not gay.... then your not gay, you know; you the best.
If you have want to go out with girls and have asked a few out, but been rejected, just keep asking girls out and soon you well get a girl friend.
As far as being BI, you said nothing that would make me think that.

(This part is a joke, so dont freak out: You could pretend to be gay, and see if you cant get a girl to "covert you" ) HAHA

[The Madman]

People think i'm gay. Yeah i wonder why :P, i dress quite camp and I talk quite camp. I don't care. I have a lot of mates and girl - friends, they don't care :P, and i just broke up with my girlfriend as well

[dontcare97]

The reason why you and other people believe you're gay is because you are going off homosexual stereotypes. A high voice or the way you act doesn't make you gay. You being physically and or emotional attracted to boys makes you gay. Don't too much about what other's think or your confidence and esteem will be completely nonexistent. Maybe that's why some girls rejected you. Keep you head above the nonsense and be who you know you are, gay, bi, or straight.

[Riku]

First of all you cannot "Act" gay. You can't talk "gay" so to speak. That's just stereotypical. Saying things like "Thats so gay" Will only strengthen peoples beliefs that your gay because you may seem like your hiding something. You cannot change who you are,no matter what you do. You can pretend, but in the end its Futile. You could walk around and talk with a deeper voice, but that would make you look stupid. You can only be one person, and that's you. You could go around and be a womanizer if you were really desperate, but I doubt you want that label slapped on you as well.

[Dorsum Oppel]

Don't care what they think. Even if you do, don't go and try to "change your image" or whatever, most kids our age don't have enough knowledge of social dynamic or acting skills to be able to fake that well.

[FcknMarc]

Fuck what people think. Their opinions aren't going to get you through life. There is no such thing as sounding "gay" , that does not even make sense to begin with. But other than that , dont let people's thoughts about you make you, you can't change the way you talk or act without being fake so embrace it instead of being ashamed of it. And if someone calls you gay tell them to go study and come back with something more original .

[Skyhawk]

We live in a society that is very scrutinizing. We expect everyone to be the same, we are treated like cogs on a conveyor belt. Just because you are different from the others doesn't make you gay, bisexual, or anything else of the like. You are you, you know who you are. Don't let the outer world force their opionions upon you.

Don't get down when you are rejected, times pass and go,there are more fish in the sea, if it isn't meant to be it isn't meant to be.

(Damn, I sound like I'm trying to get a friend over being dumped. 0_0)

[ExhibitG]

I think you should stop worrying about figuring out a way to stop "acting" gay, and spend more time figuring out a way to be yourself and not give a damn what the others have to say.

[Tactical Commando]

If you don't want others to think that your gay, then try to act buff at the beach or the pool by being shirtless and flex a lot. Also do dirty stuff like burping or farting probably idk, that's what my friend told me. If you want to check if your gay, then goto gay porno site and if you say eww gross and leave the page quick, then your straight.

[heehaa]

Do not force yourself being gay. Looking gay does not make us gay, cos looking straight doesnt mean the guy is straight as well. Prob just take your friends' comments as a trivial joke will do. :)

[Kujiro]

I believe voice is not a moderating factor for sexuality, and i dont think it should be.

Firstly, in my opinion, no one is able to choose their sexuality, but they can choose to deny their sexuality, and play along with the stereotypical male and female relationship, because thats the norm.

You mentioned you see yourself with a wife and kids, is it because it is the norm?
you mentioned you are 16 and the only factor that people refer you as gay is because of your voice? im sorry but i think they are pretty shallow.

The key ingredient for any form of relationship be male/male, male/female, female/female,
would be respect, trust and love.
From the way you have displayed your case, i feel that you are not actually gay or bi, but you are irritated by people calling you so,

I suppose you know and understand yourself better than anyone else, and you have made the choice.
You need to work on your own confidence, no one is able to take you out of your room but yourself.

You are what you make yourself to be, its important that you carry yourself well before others will stand in awe in your presence.

Do not be affected by what other's think, as long as you know what you are doing is the right thing.
Bear in mind, comments are like assholes, everyone has one.

But before anything else you need to understand yourself better, identify your own sexuality through soul searching, reflection. Take the answers with an open heart.
and the answers will always reach you.

Just remember, sticks and stones will break your bones but words never will.

Good luck
*cheers*

[Abigballofdust]

There are many people sounding 'gay', having a feminine voice or something along that line. This means nothing though. A friend of mine talks like a gay too but he's like 100% straight (has a girlfriend and has had many of them through the years) while I'm gay and I have a pretty stable manly voice.
It's just a question of genetics and getting used to speak some how.
As far as I understood you are not acting womanized? It's just your voice that irritates you?
Well, all I can say is be yourself. You cannot change your voice besides faking it, and trust me, that can end into even worse...
Also, some girls like these kinda voices. They say it's more 'charming' :yes:

[Maxxie]

Frankly, you stop giving a damn about it and get on with your life. It doesn't matter what other people think, you're YOU and that's all that matters.

[Youtubeuser101]

it doesnt matter what others think, be urself

[jessehs]

I'm bi and I play football have a deep voice I dress in just t shirts and gym shorts, no one would think i'm bi but i am so no matter what you look like outside you can't judge the inside of that person