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Kinetic
July 15th, 2011, 04:23 PM
Alright, I will give more details as it goes on, i have a problem. I would ask my friend to post this, but he doesn't have internet access. Long story short:

A friend of mine use to live in an abusive household where his father use to beat him and his mother and verbally abuse them.

His parents consider themselves separated but they are not divorced yet due to money. between him, his older brother, mother and his little sister, they get out. Because his mother was un-employed he goes to stay with another friend, under the whole "surrogate parenting" system. A few years have gone by, and the surrogate parents want him out.

He has 3 days to leave before his father comes to pick him up again. The main problem is that we have no clue how to find his mother, If we find his mother we can make a plan to take his father to court on the counts of abuse and other things.

He's a good kid, he doesn't need to go back to that household, he will be there with his father alone. I can't fathom what could happen to him. His dad lives 2 hours away from here, It won't be an easy save.

Question 1: How do we find his mother? I've tried google and websites already? This is the first step.

Question 2: How do i go about doing this? Since he will be gone, I am on my own, I've purchased him a cell phone and i am paying for the bill so that he can contact me as needed.

Allbutanillusion
July 15th, 2011, 05:40 PM
Well , you said you tried websites already, but did you try the www.usa.gov website. They have information on there about obtaining public records... which may or may not inform you of where his mother is now.

I don't know the whole situation so, I don't know what else to tell you, but that maybe a start.

Kinetic
July 15th, 2011, 07:39 PM
This website is confusing me.. hehe

DJZS
July 15th, 2011, 10:55 PM
Maybe you should go to the police about this whole situation.

Allbutanillusion
July 15th, 2011, 11:10 PM
This website is confusing me.. hehe

I think I see what you mean. I can be confusing if you don't know how to navigate around it.

I have another website you may want to check out, I don't highly recommend it, and by no means am I promoting this site because they are trying to sell information, but I was able to look of basic information about myself for free and it was correct, as far as the address and telephone number. It is http://www.spokeo.com/.

Also, I think that you would be able to go to the city hall( town registry)of the town/city where your friend lived and be able to look up or get some information from there. I am not sure. I hope that kind of helps.

Kujiro
July 16th, 2011, 07:15 AM
This is tricky, why would the surrogate parent want him out all of a sudden? was it pre planned that he has only a term of the few years? maybe if its possible that u can arrange with his surrogate parents for a little more time and see if u can get him a place to hike over first?

Kinetic
July 16th, 2011, 04:52 PM
We're literally running out of time. By tomarrow he'll be with his dad, so in order for this to work, i HAVE to find his mother after he's gone, then he has to run..

We also have no pictures, just her name, and "known cities" to be in. we have her appearance and everything.

Please don't double post there's an edit button for a reason. ~Sogeking

XxMurderedKissesxX
July 16th, 2011, 07:50 PM
Well,if hes 16 he could go to a group home,a shelter if needed,until time is bought so you can either find his mother,or another house for him to stay in ect. You could contact the FCAS to report that going back with his father isnt a good idea and explain why. Maybe he could stay at a friends for awhile to again buy more time.

Kinetic
July 17th, 2011, 10:36 AM
^ Thats what we're trying to do, its the parents that need the convincing.. He can't stay at my house because my parents are anal..

DerBear
July 18th, 2011, 07:40 PM
Her photo give into The NEWS papers and NEWS chanels...with Whole information.

yes and the father could find out and do something like run or go on the hunt

just saying

Tango
July 19th, 2011, 12:51 AM
Why do his surrogate parents want him out so suddenly? Have you or your friend tried to talk to them and tell them the situation?

I think you guys need to go to the police, tell them he feels threatened with his father and that it's not a safe environment for him to be in.

Good luck

bakrb448
July 19th, 2011, 03:29 AM
^ what she said

if that doesnt work
Have you tried explaining the situation to your rents? And say itll only be for a few months, untill you can find his mom