From Friends to "Friends"

[PerpetualImperfexion]

Recently I was talking to a girl on facebook. We were having a good conversation. We are good friends and I thought she liked me. I asked her out... not knowing that she had a boyfriend who she proceeded to tell me about. After a few awkward moments I asked if she would have said yes if she wasn't going out with him. She proceeded to tell me no. She said she viewed me as more of a friend and that she didn't mean to hurt my feelings. I told her that I understood. So what I want to know is how I can get passed what is commonly known as "the friend stage" while there's another guy involved.

[HaydenM]

It may just be my belief but I refuse to make a move on a girl in a relationship, no matter how much I feel for her. I can empathise with the other guy if I were to be successful. How would you feel if you were in a perfect relationship with this girl and then along comes a guy and scores her behind your back, wouldn't feel good would it, Just my opinion on it.

[mrbob360]

dude you cant make someone LOVE you especially if there already in relatioship yes i know its tough but your gunna have to live with it otherwise you could loose her as a friend altogether and im sure you wont want that

[Ambrosia]

When a girl is in a relationship there is nothing you can (or even should) do. By making any sort of move on her during said relationship you can end up doing one (or both) of two things:

1) Making her angry because you KNOW she has a boyfriend and are knowingly side stepping this fact
2) Making her BOYFRIEND angry and thus upsetting the girl and getting yourself hurt possibly physically and mentally

Neither of these two things are worth it. You have to simply keep yourself as a friend with her and wait until they have broken up. You can gradually increase your friendship with her and be there for her when they fight but that's pretty much it. Anything more could horribly screw up the balance of things.

[Nat99]

give her time, chances r theyll break up and she will b looking 4 sympathy

[PerpetualImperfexion]

The sad thing is that this guy is my (possibly former) best friend. I don't understand why she went back out with him after some of the horrible stuff he said about her. The last time they broke up (for said horrible things) I waited a few days and asked her out. She told me she "wasn't ready to get into another relationship". So she knows that I like her and yet she still goes out with my best friend who was a total dick to her. This makes no sense to me.

[Voldemort]

well u cant really make a relationship for now, but if she broke up with him i guess thats when u make ur move. haha

[Hope4u]

why do all guys want to go beyond the "friend stage" with every girl. Can't you just except being her friend?..Believe it or not, sometimes we just want you as a friend and nothing more.

[HaydenM]

why do all guys want to go beyond the "friend stage" with every girl. Can't you just except being her friend?..Believe it or not, sometimes we just want you as a friend and nothing more.

not all guys have to do it for every girl, But if we are to fall for a friend we either have to swallow our feelings of make a move. Not all guys have to make a move on all their female friends (I have way to many female friends to make a move on all of them and for most I just wouldn't even consider it)

[Bard95]

Don't try to go past the friend stage if she has a boyfriend, if you truly care about her. Because in the end it will hurt her... trust me I've been there, going through it etc...